Suicide is something that not only affects the person ending his or her life but affects everyone around them. While you might not think anyone close to you is thinking about it, chances are you are wrong.
Suicide is a lot more common than you’d think and if you or anyone close to you is thinking about it please do not hesitate to get the help that is needed. If this is a touchy subject for you then please continue at your own risk. Before we dive into the signs please note that you can use any of the following hotlines/text-lines to get free guidance if you do not have someone within your close circle you feel comfortable talking with.
Text HOME to 741741 (This doesn’t have to be a crazy outrageous crisis moment it can be anything you consider to be a crisis to you. Sometimes the smallest situations can feel enormous and this is a great resource to use in those moments.)
Below I am going to go over some of the more common red flags that someone you love might be thinking about suicide. That being said, sometimes these signs are not present. Please if someone comes to you for advice or to share their struggles don’t make them feel invalid. When they say they might be thinking about suicide, take them seriously.
8 Red Flags That Someone You Love Might Be Thinking About Suicide:
1. They mention feeling trapped or not wanting to live anymore.
This person might come to you and mention saying that they feel hopeless or trapped in their lives. This is not something that should be taken lightly. You can tell when there is a change within someone and as mentioned above if someone says they don’t want to be alive it should be taken seriously.
2. They seem to have no motivation at all.
This person out of what seems like nowhere has begun withdrawing. It might continue on for quite awhile or it might progress quickly. They don’t partake in any of their hobbies and they just seem completely unmotivated.
Don’t get me wrong not everyone with depression or Bipolar disorder is going to attempt suicide but is a possibility. Mental illnesses should always be properly managed. If someone is down and out or going through a manic spell don’t ignore it.
4. They abuse drugs or alcohol.
When someone abuses drugs or alcohol there has to be something driving them to it. Regardless of that reason, they can become suicidal in some cases. Getting clean is important and working through the things they are running from will benefit them greatly.
5. They are participating in self-harm.
While not everyone who self-harms wants to die they are battling things within. This can lead to a suicide attempt and in itself is not healthy. Pay close attention to this kind of thing.
6. They are overly happy and trying too hard.
If someone has been down and out and randomly become overly happy things might not be getting better like you’d think. When someone is trying too hard they might just be putting on a good show. Don’t be deceived, sometimes things are not what they seem.
7. They engage in more ‘risky behavior.’
This is because they feel like they no longer have anything to risk. They don’t care what happens to them. They become much more reckless.
8. They begin giving things away and in their own way saying their ‘goodbyes.’
This is their way of preparing themselves for what is to come. While it will not always be obvious it usually makes sense once it is too late. Pay attention to how things are happening and what is actually going on.
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