When you hold someone near and dear in your heart, whether it is a romantic partner, a close family member or a dear friend, then you want to do what you can to communicate just how special they are to you.
Sure, you can tell them, but have you ever felt as though the words themselves just aren’t enough. Saying ‘I love you’ or ‘I appreciate you’ is great, and should never be avoided in a relationship, but there are many other ways that you can allow your actions to do the talking by actually showing them first hand just how much you care. These are the little things that, while they only take a moment of your time, will have a long-lasting impact on their lives and on the overall state of your relationship with one another.
Make Anyone Feel Special and Appreciated with These 7 Tips:
#1 – Share A Favorite Memory
Sometimes the best thing you can do for someone if you notice that they need a little pick-me-up is to share a favorite memory of a time together. Recall something fun you did, or a time that they made you feel loved. This shows that not only are you thinking of them here and now, but that you remember the efforts they have made in the past, which allows people to feel as though they hold an important role in your life (which is what you ultimately want them to feel, no?)
#2 – Show Interest in Their Life
Rather than venting about what has frustrated you today, or what your crazy aunt has done recently to upset the family, turn the focus on them. Ask them what has been happening in their life, and genuinely listen. Pay attention to what they are saying, asking questions building on the information to show that you are engaged. For example, if they say that they have been frustrated with training their new puppy, ask about what specifically has been happening. Ask about hobbies that you know they enjoy, showing that you pay attention to what they have said in conversations in the past. This can make people feel ‘seen and heard’, appreciated and cared about.
#3 – Give Small Gifts
This isn’t to say that you should base any friendships or relationships on how much you can give someone, but sometimes the smallest of gifts can have the biggest impact. Little gifts like a cup of their favourite coffee, a chocolate bar or a favorite or meaningful book or trinket discovered at a garage sale shows both that you have been thinking about them, and that you appreciate them enough to get to know what it is that they enjoy.
#4 – Make Something
Another idea when you are on the topic of gift giving, rather than seeking to purchase something, try making something for them first hand. These gestures are full of so much love and care, as you are willing to invest your time with them in mind. This may be a homecooked meal or baking something special. If you are creatively inclined, make them a small gift. One of my favorite decorations currently hanging in my office was drawn by a friend. It doesn’t have to be anything big or fancy, just the fact that you were willing to put in the work with them in mind will mean a lot.
#5 – Quality Time
Often it isn’t even the material things that truly matter to people as much as the time that we spend together. Taking the time to clear your schedule and fit them in shows that you are a priority in their life. This could be a bigger time commitment, like a weekend away with your spouse, or something as simple as grabbing a cup of coffee or going for a walk through the park with a friend. You will be surprised which moments end up making lasting memories for those we care about.
#6 – Physical Touch
Believe it or not, this is a point that carries into many different relationships, not just your romantic relationships. It’s also important to know, I’m not talking about super intimate acts, it’s the little moments of physical touch that can make a big difference. Hold your partners hand, give them a shoulder rub, or cuddle closer when watching a movie. When looking at friends or family, a friendly squeeze of the arm, pat on the shoulder or a hug can go a long way.
#7 – Take Something Off Their Plate
For some people, the greatest thing that you can do to show that you care for them is to take something off their plate. This may mean picking up a little extra housework around the home to show your spouse that you care, offering to pick up your friend’s dry cleaning if you’re going to be in the area anyway, or agreeing to deliver something to the mailroom for your co-worker. It doesn’t have to be a major life-changing task, but just doing something small for them shows that you care enough to want to help.