Being in a toxic relationship is hell, but getting out of one and facing the aftermath can be a lot worse for some people. Once you finally manage to escape the clutches of someone who only wishes to do you harm you can begin to grow as a person and that is something we all need to do.
That being said, finding love after being in a seriously toxic relationship can be extremely hard. When you have been through something so traumatic you question the intentions of everyone who comes your way. It’s like everything you would have considered to be romantic before isn’t the same and everything just spins out of control in the wrong direction. A lot of people actually end up right back in another toxic relationship and this is not what we want.
Staying single for a long while is not a bad thing. You have to let yourself heal. You need to work towards finding yourself in the ways you might not have thought you could before considering another relationship. Being with someone who has your best interests at heart will make a huge difference in the end.
When you finally think you are ready to begin dating don’t rush things. Look for someone that doesn’t take advantage of you. Someone who is willing to go the extra mile for you. Below I am going to go over some of the things that will happen once you have found a good person to be with. These things will not happen with anyone who is overly toxic. They will only happen with people who are genuine.
7 Things That Will Happen After A Toxic Relationship When You Finally Find A Man Worth Your Time:
You really begin to figure out that what you thought love was technically wasn’t love at all. You were used to the one-sided love, not real love. The longer you are together the more apparent this is.
2. He does not contradict himself.
He really shocks you in his own ways. He doesn’t say one thing and do another. He does what he says he will do and doesn’t agree to things he cannot follow through with. He shows you that he is someone you can rely on.
3. He redefines your standards.
He shows you that you don’t have to settle. He makes you aware that there are people out there in this world who will treat you right. He shows you that if someone is not treating you right that there is someone out there who will. He really opens your eyes to so much more.
4. You become more comfortable with yourself.
The closer you get, the more comfortable you get with who you are. You find things in yourself you did not know existed. You aren’t forced to hide your true self or put your guard up. Once it comes down everything gets even better unlike in the past.
5. He sticks around even when you can’t help but question him and his motives.
You question him and everything he does because of the things you have been through but he doesn’t hold it against you. He understands that you have been through a lot and are still working through it. Patience is something you see in him more-so than anything else.
6. You feel good about the relationship or potential relationship.
You finally feel like things are looking up. He is doing all that he can to be there for you and you are growing as a person. You feel good about things and this is something you haven’t felt in a long time.
7. You learn to trust again.
Once things are as they should be in the end you will be able to find a sense of trust you haven’t had in a long time. This is something that will benefit you greatly. In the end, this is something we all need.
There is always hope, you can find love after a shit relationship. Make sure that you never settle. Only truly give yourself to someone who deserves you.
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