Being able to tell whether someone is lying or not can be frustrating at times. This is because some people are really good at lying.
The best way to detect a liar I have found is to examine their words against their actions. There are even a few statements that they are more likely to say if they are lying. If you are discussing something with someone and they say the following things you may need to consider that they could be lying through their teeth.
The Red Flags of Deception:
1. “You can’t prove that.”
Their word choices in this one make it clear they did something but since there is no proof they are refusing to own up to it. If they didn’t do it they would have simply said that they didn’t do it, right?
2. “That’s about it.”
This makes it seem as if the person is hiding something. If they had told you everything wouldn’t they have responded without using the word ‘about.’
3. “I don’t remember doing that.”
Lack of memory for most deceptive people is a means of covering up the truth. Whether they get caught or not they can cop out to an extent if they pretend to not even remember the event.
4. “I don’t know what you’re talking about.”
This is an attempt to deny everything all at once. You know they know exactly what you’re talking about but getting them to agree to it is a lot harder than it should be.
5. “Are you accusing me?”
This is the way a liar will try and turn things around on the accuser. This is an attempt to put the accuser in defense mode and ruin the whole point of the conversation.
6. “Why would I do that?”
Deceptive people are often quite evasive which is easy to pick up on. Using this phrase buys them a little time to come up with something else to say.
7. “You really think I would do something like that?”
This is an attempt to make the accuser feel bad for accusing. Sometimes it works and other times the accuser will see through their lies. Anyone is capable of anything, of course, you might think they did whatever it is you are accusing them of.
Deceptive people will do whatever they can to get out of owning up for something they did. If you notice someone saying any of these things it is best to respond with the correct thing. For instance when someone says “I don’t remember what I did” you should respond with “well, what do you remember?” Any honest person would respond with what they did remember while the deceptive person would still say that they didn’t know. When it comes to detecting deceptive people you have to listen to what they are saying carefully.
Have you ever heard someone say these things only to find out later that they did do what it was you were accusing them of? I know I have on more than one occasion. Hopefully, now you are better equipped for dealing with deceptive people.