Sometimes we end up giving far too much of ourselves to other people. Just because we want to help and be there for the people we care about does not mean we should be letting ourselves fall through the cracks.
It is not our job to fix the problems other people have. Just because we want to does not mean we should. Sometimes we need to stop and take a look at ourselves and our wants and needs. If we are denying ourselves of the things we need, then we are without a doubt giving far more than we should be.
Below I am going to go over some of the signs that might be indicating that you need to take a step back. If you notice all of these things apply to you, then you may need to stop and think things through. You matter just as much as anyone else does and if you don’t take care of yourself , then how do you expect to be able to take care of those that matter so much to you?
7 Signs You Might Be Giving Too Much of Yourself:
1. You feel bad when you do something for yourself.
You shouldn’t be feeling bad for doing things for yourself. You only get one life and you need to be the one living it. If you take every breath for someone else, what is that going to leave you with in the end? Your wellbeing and dreams matter.
2. Those who care keep reminding you that you need to take care of yourself.
If the people around you are noticing that you aren’t taking care of yourself, you should take it as a red flag. You should be stopping to partake in some self-care from time to time. Your wellbeing matters and you should be putting it before anything else. You are not responsible for other people.
3. You feel like getting ahead is impossible.
If you feel like there is too much on your plate then there probably is. If getting ahead feels impossible, stop and ask for some help. There is nothing wrong with getting a hand from someone you give a hand to. We all need help sometimes. If you cannot follow through with something you promised it won’t be the end of the world.
4. You feel literally exhausted at the end of every day.
If you’re feeling as if the only thing that keeps you going is the fact that everything you are doing is for someone else you need to relax and stop doing so much. You should not be exhausting yourself to the point where you’re driven merely by having promised someone you would do something. You deserve to wake up in the morning feeling refreshed not still out of energy from the day before.
5. People keep asking if you’re alright.
The people around you will notice when things start getting too intense for you. If people are constantly asking you if you are okay you might want to ask yourself that as well. Perhaps they are noticing something you are not.
6. You aren’t happy.
If you aren’t happy then you need to make some changes. Your happiness matters. Once again, this is your life and you have to live it for yourself.
7. You never tell anyone ‘no.’
If you are struggling to tell other people no and always doing things you do not want to do, you need to remove yourself from the situation completely. You are not a slave and saying no to things you do not want to do is perfectly fine. Stop letting people guilt you into doing things for them.
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