Many of us consider our families to be dysfunctional on some level, but have you ever considered a family member to be toxic? When you think about it, with the number of toxic individuals in the world today, it only makes sense that we have at least one of these bad seeds in our bloodline.
Toxic people come in all shapes and sizes. They can be strangers, friends, or even family members. Just because someone has been in your life since you were born doesn’t mean they have your best interests in mind or that they should be apart of your future. Family members can be amazing support groups but if you’re putting your trust in the wrong family members, things will go south fast.
If the people who are supposed to be building you up are tearing you down you don’t have to keep them around. You don’t owe anyone anything. If they’re hurting your wellbeing, you should cut ties regardless of who they are. Sometimes cutting ties is painful and really sucks but in the long run, if it puts you in a better place, it’s worth it. Below I am going to go over some of the signs that a person in your family might be toxic. If these signs are present, don’t waste any more of your time.
7 Signs You Should Be Cutting Out A Toxic Family Member:
1. They aren’t there when you need them.
You might be there when they need you but when you need them these people are nowhere to be found. They leave you to face all your problems on your own but get mad if you try to do the same to them. No matter how bad off you are, they will not be there to help you stay afloat.
2. You have to watch what you say around them.
You have to walk on eggshells when it comes to being around this person. They make you feel like if you say one wrong thing or make a mistake you will be attacked for it. Nothing you do is ever right in their eyes even if you’re doing your best.
3. You feel like nothing you do is ever good enough for them.
You do a lot for them and you try your best but your best is never good enough. They always want more and will go out of their way to make you feel bad. You are always being pushed through the washer and left out to dry.
4. They make you feel insecure.
They prey on you like you are a sickly calf. They make you feel more insecure about the things you don’t like about yourself and they do it on purpose. They want to break you down so they will feel better themselves.
5. You don’t hear from them unless they need something.
They sometimes don’t come around much at all. For the most part, you only hear from/see them when they are in need themselves. They won’t call unless they want to borrow money and you won’t be able to tell them no without them making you out to be the worst person in the world.
6. You don’t like being around them, it affects your mood.
This person always leaves you feeling drained and torn down. You don’t like to be around them much at all and have to take them in waves. They are too stressful for their own good.
7. They manipulate your emotions.
They use your own emotions against you to get what they want. They know how to play you and are good at it. You have to end up doing what they want sooner or later.
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