We grow up dreaming of finding our ‘perfect half’, that person with which we are destined to find our happily-ever-after. The journey to true happiness and destiny, however, isn’t as clear-cut as we see in our fairy tales, instead, requiring a self-reflection, personal growth, conflicts, and self-realization.
If you have dreamed your whole life of Prince Charming riding in on his trusty steed, whisking you away to a life of happiness and perfection, you may have to rethink your plans for the future. This isn’t to say that your ‘special someone’ isn’t out here. In fact, two-thirds of Americans believe in the idea of a soulmate. If you hand your heart and soul over to the energies of the Universe, you can rest assured that there is someone out there destined to meet you and change your life as you know it. Known as your ‘twin flame’, this is the person you are destined to find not only in this life but throughout eternity. Your twin flame is your mirror half, the exactly complementary piece to your life. They will push you to grow and evolve, bringing out your best self in the face of a negative, challenging and toxic world.
While every relationship is certainly individual and unique, there are some similarities that exist among all twin flame relationships, guided by the energy of the Universe. This includes a framework for the journey that you are about to undertake when you come together, phases that you will pass through together. The time that these phases will take will differ from relationship to relationship. For some, this will all happen in the span of weeks, bringing you together in a whirlwind relationship. For others, however, this will span more than one lifetime – the process of coming together beginning in this life, but not fully working through all these phases until the next life. There is no way to truly predict which journey you are on, only time will tell.
Here are the 7 important phases that every twin flame relationship will experience:
#1 – Self Preparation
The first page of finding and connecting with your twin flame is actually carried out entirely individually. Before you even meet, both parties must prepare themselves for this meaningful connection. During this stage, you must look inward, reflecting on your own mental, physical, emotional and spiritual state at this time. If there are things that you need to work on, this is the stage to make that a reality. For example, if you were burned in a previous relationship and currently struggle with the concept of trust, this very well may negatively impact your twin flame relationship when you meet. For this reason, it is important to address and work through these issues during the preparation stage, so that they won’t hinder the progress of your relationship in the future.
#2 – Initial Contact
You will be able to sense that you are entering into the second phase when you find yourself feeling loved and adored with no real explanation. After all, you haven’t actually met someone to make you feel this way or started a relationship. The truth is that your soul is now aware you are about to meet that ‘someone special,’ sensing that they are about to come into your life. You may also find yourself dreaming about this new connection that is to come, feeling excited for all that the future holds. Your first contact with your twin flame won’t involve any actual physical contact, it is a contact between your souls. However, you already know that this is something special.
#3 – Instant Connection
When you first lay eyes on your twin flame, you just know that this is the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with. In fact, the intensity of this connection may be completely overwhelming! Take a deep breath and don’t allow this to scare you away! When you finally speak with one another, you will feel as though you’re talking to an old friend that you have known most of your life. There is a deep, profound instant connection that defies explanation, but at the same time is just works. You will feel like you have finally found the piece of the puzzle that has been missing all this time, instantly making your life feel whole and complete. This is a stage that won’t last long as your connection will deepen incredibly quickly, propelling you onto the next stage of this journey.
#4 – Conflict
You may have convinced yourself that the profound connection that comes with a twin flame relationship will save you from the conflict that comes with a standard relationship, however, you wouldn’t be further from the truth. The quick, intense connection that is created actually forces you to go through the stages of a normal relationship but a much faster rate. For example, in a standard relationship, you will start off in a ‘lust’ stage, where you are blind to all of your partner’s quirks or flaws. In time, however, you will open your eyes to reality and begin to see these little habits and annoyances. In a twin flame relationship, these quirks will be thrown in your face quickly, causing conflict at an early stage. Remember that your twin flame is a mirror of yourself, so they will be the opposite of you in many ways. This is the stage that you prepared yourself for, dealing with as many of your own personal issues so that you are prepared to work through the conflict that will arise within your relationship. In most cases, one of the pair will discover that they don’t feel entirely prepared to handle this, running for the hills.
#5 – The Dance
As one, or both, partners begin to pull away it will start the dance that will mark the early stages of the twin flame relationship. You find yourself drawn to one another, knowing at a deep, meaningful level that you are destined to be together. However, at the same time, you are struggling with your remaining personal issues, hesitating to fully commit. This is going to be a difficult time for both of you as you ride a rollercoaster of emotions, experiencing some of your highest highs and your lowest lows both individually and as a couple. Throughout this stage, you will experience physical separate from one another as one or both people continue to struggle with this conflict, struggle, and turbulence. It is, however, this very stage that will determine whether this is truly your twin flame and if you will stand the test of time. Those that have been misled will realize that something’s ‘not right’ during the dance, heading their separate ways. Meanwhile, those that are destined for a life together will find that this struggle ultimately brings them closer together.
#6 – Consideration
As your dance begins to wind down, a true twin flame relationship will be left with the realization that this is ‘the one’. This is the point where you will step back and start to consider what you are going to have to change or work through if you want this relationship to work. This isn’t an easy stage, as it will involve a level of deep self-reflection – a time where you have to admit to your biggest weaknesses, accepting that there are aspects of yourself that you need to work through. Don’t allow this to scare you away. You are so close to finding true happiness with your twin flame… Take the time necessary to work through each of these quirks and flaws in your relationship, growing into the best version of yourself. This is the self that can genuinely give your heart to your partner, building a lasting and meaningful connection that will serve you through the rest of your life.
#7 – Reunion
Everything that you have done has led up to this moment. This is the point where, if you have addressed your flaws and quirks adequately, you have prepared yourself for a true, lasting connection. Upon reaching this stage of personal growth and development, you will find yourselves drawn back to one another once again. The road to this point certainly isn’t an easy one. It’s also important to note that reaching the reunion phase doesn’t mean that the rest of your lives together will be free from conflict or challenges. We live in a messy, difficult and unpredictable world, and you will have to work through these struggles along the way. However, you will have the opportunity to do with your twin flame by your side.