Experts estimate that approximately 1 in 5 adults in a monogamous relationship have cheated on their current partner, with that rate coming in even higher among married men. Even more shocking, nearly half of people have admitted to being unfaithful at some point over the course of their lives.

It is not uncommon to have feelings or thoughts of being unfaithful, in fact, it is entirely human for other people to catch your wandering eyes. It is this same thought process and reaction that causes us to have discussions with our friends about the hot actress in the latest Hollywood blockbuster. The problem lies in the moment when that appreciation for another woman’s appearance takes the next step, crossing the line into stepping outside of your relationship behind your partner’s back.

 

25 men share their tips to stay faithful in the face of temptation:

#1 – “I think the problem with guys who cheat is that they have no imagination. If you can fantasize, you don’t need to act on all the horny urges running through your mind. You can envision yourself getting humped by the cute hippie chick seated across from you on the subway instead of bumping uglies in real life. That’s how I manage.” – Hussain (age 26)

#2 – “My girlfriend doesn’t police me, and I think that’s key. She doesn’t demand that I check in all the time or call me non-stop when I’m out with my buddies. Some guys I know have to call or text their girl every hour, or they’re in trouble. And guess what? That pisses them off and makes them resentful. There’s trust between my girlfriend and me, and I respect our relationship even more because of that. Trust isn’t easy to build, and it’s even harder to rebuild, so I don’t plan on compromising it.” – Paul (age 30)

#3 – “Six months into dating, I caught my girlfriend making out with another guy. It felt so shitty to watch that go down, but it also made me realize just how strongly I felt about her. I confronted her about the whole thing the next day and suggested we either promise not to do that to each other ever again, or break up. She balled and apologized and we hugged it out. It’s been four years now. I’m a man of my word, and I don’t want to make the woman I love feel like crap, so I’m good.” – Len (age 23)

#4 – “I like to go out a lot, and my girlfriend knows that about me. When you’re all boozed up at night and in the mix, it can be tough to make good decisions. What I do is give myself a curfew. I’m like Cinderella. At midnight, no matter how much fun I’m having, I go home to my girlfriend and we make love. Nothing good happens after 12am at the bar anyway.” – Saul (age 25)

#5 – “I only sleep with other women when I absolutely have to. I know what it sounds like, but hear me out. My girlfriend travels a lot – like, six months at a time. She has a big job and I support her career. But it’s tough to be alone for long stretches, and she understands that. She’s the one who suggested I explore other sexual, non-emotional relationship while she’s away. When my girlfriend’s around, it’s easy not to stray. When she’s gone, I take a few dips outside the main pond, but only because she gave me permission to explicitly.” – Kyle (age 27)

#6 – “All I have to do is remember the expression on my girlfriend’s face the first time and only time she caught me cheating. She was so fucking crushed, it killed me. And then she managed to forgive me. I don’t want to do that to her ever again. She deserves so much better.” – Simon (age 32)

#7 – “When I get the itch to cheat on my girlfriend, I pick up my phone. My wallpaper is always a photo of us and I have an archive of amazing shots of us having a great time together. Seconds after combing through those happy couple pics, I see things clearly. I see what I have to lose by acting like a fool just to get my rocks off and it’s a lot.” – Jared (age 29)

#8 – “My fiancée and I had a daughter last year and ever since, I’ve never even considered cheating for more than a millisecond. I realize that having a little girl shouldn’t be required to stop a man from cheating, but that’s honestly how I handle the idea of infidelity. Cheating on a woman is a horrible thing to do. I don’t want any man who dates my daughter to cheat on her, so I don’t cheat, either. I don’t want to be a hypocrite.” – Sanjay (age 28)

#9 – “My girlfriend and I are both super communicators. There’s rarely even a five-minute span when I could possibly misbehave because I’m constantly reminded that she’s in my life via text, Facebook, voice note, or, if I’m lucky, a sext. I can’t imagine dating before the Internet. Constant communication makes it so easy not to be stupid.” – Trevor (age 23)

#10 – “Cam girls pretty much saved my relationship. I’m a really sexual guy, but I’m in love with a woman who doesn’t like sex that much. She never wants to do it, and I’ve tried everything to get her in the mood without any success. I love my girlfriend, and I don’t want to be unfaithful, but abstinence definitely doesn’t work for me. So I get what I need by interacting with pros across screens. I watch strangers strip and masturbate, mostly, and my girlfriend knows about it. It’s an expensive habit, but way cheaper – not to mention safer and more respectable – than hiring a hooker.” – Peter (age 27)

 

#11 – “Just last week this hot girl hit on me at Whole Foods in the middle of the day. I’m human, so for a few seconds all I could think about was what she looked like naked. But then I came to and remembered that I was grocery shopping for the love of my life, so we could cook dinner together that night. Instead of letting myself engage, I was totally straightforward with her. I said, ‘I have a girlfriend,’ and walked away. I think there’s value in forcing yourself to be upfront. That way, you don’t even let yourself taste the temptation. You cut it off right away.” – Frederick (age 26)

#12 – “Whenever I’m out without my girlfriend and I meet a hot girl, I let myself flirt a little. I definitely hit on other women and I even play single sometimes, which isn’t the greatest thing, maybe, but I know when to stop. I know when to pull out, you could say, before I get myself into any trouble. So far my record is totally clean in my current relationship, and I think it’s because I give myself the bandwidth to engage in some ego boosting banter, but without ever going too far.” – Kevin (age 30)

#13 – “It’s not that I’m that good of a guy, but I hate discomfort and there’s nothing more awkward than having to face your girlfriend one-on-one after feeling some other chick up or crossing some kind of boundary, however far you go. Believe me, I know – but I’m a changed guy now. I don’t’ cheat because I know myself and I wouldn’t be able to stand the consequences.” – RJ (age 24)

#14 – “I was a serial cheater for a long time. So when I pledged fidelity to my girlfriend of three years, I had to go cold turkey. No strip clubs. No Porn. No nights out with the boys. It’s working so far. Been eight and a half months. Some people can’t handle a taste without bingeing, and I’m one of them. You really have to know yourself, I think.” – Carl (age 29)

#15 – “Since I was a boy, my mom drilled it into my head that men who stray are bastards. ‘Don’t be a bastard like your own deadbeat dad,’ she always said. He left us when I was two-years-old and never looked back. I don’t want to be like that, and, more than anything, I don’t want to disappoint my mom. So when I’m in a serious, committed relationship, I just don’t mess around.” – John (age 30)

#16 – “I’m a guilt-ridden guy. Whenever I’m in the position to do something regrettable, I just think about how horrible I’d feel the next morning – how hard it would be to look my beautiful girlfriend in the eyes – and I make a personal pledge not to go there.” – Jacob (age 24)

#17 – “My fiance is the best thing that’s ever happened to me. Before her I was a disaster. So when a good-looking girl flirts with me, I’m not even tempted. I’ve got a great thing going on at home. I’m totally smitten – and proud of it.” – Ray (age 29)

#18 – “When it comes to sex, my girlfriend is kind of like the overachieving Tracy Flick character from that movie Election. She’s crazy dedicated to keeping me satisfied sexually. I don’t think a day’s gone by in the last six months that I didn’t get a blowjob or get laid. I don’t even have to think about cheating because she works so damn hard to meet my needs. Did we end up together for that reason? Possibly. But I’d like to think I could commit to someone no matter how sexual she was, as long as we were in love.” – Ty (age 25)

#19 – “I follow the Two Minute Rule. When a blazing hot girl hits on me at the bar or someone at work gets a little touchy-feely, I’ll reciprocate – but I watch the clock. At 120 seconds, I draw the line. I pull back entirely and nothing ever goes too far.” – Reggie (age 32)

#20 – “I cheated on my girlfriend a few times over the course of our first five years together. I’m not proud of it, but I never got caught and I don’t think I’m a bad guy. Last month I had this epiphany, though, and I decided to cut that shit out altogether. So what did I do? I proposed. I believe in the sanctity of marriage and I think being a husband will help me walk a straighter path. My parents have been together for forty years and I look to them as an example to live by.” – Sam (age 31)

 

#21 – “What I do when I’m tempted to stray is simple, and it works: I head to the nearest bathroom and jerk off.” – Derek (age 27)

#22 – “I haven’t been physical with another woman since the day my long-term girlfriend and I agreed to be exclusive. But I do have a work spouse and we have the kind of relationship that might be construed as inappropriately intimate to outsiders. The thing is, that secondary relationship keeps me sane. I get the satisfaction of flirting with another woman without getting naked with her. Truthfully, if my girlfriend had a work spouse of her own, I wouldn’t mind. Whatever helps us both get by.” – Ted (age 25)

#23 – “This is what I do any time I find myself in a tempting situation. I think about all the amazing women in my life: my mom, my grandma, my sister, and some of my best female friends. I don’t want to disappoint the women I respect, and I know they wouldn’t approve of me cheating, so I don’t do anything stupid.” – Wallace (age 28)

#24 – “Porn really helps. I’m a sexual guy so I get a lot of urges and those urges aren’t always triggered by my girlfriend. When I get aroused and she’s not around to satisfy my needs, I count on my naked video friends to do the trick. I don’t think that’s such a bad thing.” – Charles (age 33)

#25 – “I need sex daily. That’s a fact. I found myself an equally horny chick to stop myself from being the guy who’s always stepping out on his girl. We have sex constantly. Genius move on my part, I’d say.” – Jared (age 24)

 

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