Not everyone is going to be as touchy-feely as you are and there is nothing wrong with that. If you know someone who isn’t fond of those kinds of things you shouldn’t force them to act in that manner.
Below you will find a list of things that those of us who hate being touched do. These are things we do for a number of reasons but they are things most people don’t realize. Just because they don’t want to be touched doesn’t mean they are being rude or disrespectful, it is actually quite the opposite.
24 Things People Who Hate Being Touched Will Relate To:
1. Being instantly attracted to any kind of accessory that might keep people from touching you.
If it is spikey or might deflect others please sign me up. People who hate being touched by others don’t just like the things they like because they like them sometimes they like them because they help them avoid others. I know this might sound odd but it is something to take into consideration.
2. Feeling like animals are way better than humans.
Someone who doesn’t like to be touched knowns all too well that animals understand much better than humans. Cats and dogs are much more fun to be around and more respectful of boundaries. I know, it’s kind of sad when you think about it.
3. Wondering why people think it’s okay to touch other people’s tattoos.
It is not okay to touch someone’s tattoo just because you noticed it or are asking about it. It is a part of their body, not yours. Why would anyone think it is alright to touch someone else without permission?
4. Planning your way out of an awkward situation before it even happens.
Having to figure out how to get away from other people before you are even around them is kind of sad but when others want to constantly cross personal boundaries this is where you end up. Sadly you find yourself making sure you have an escape route ready even at mere family gatherings. This is a must.
When it comes to concerts and rooms full of people you are not interested. You would very much rather spend your time alone or with the few people that understand you. The more people the higher the chance is of you being bumped around all night and that is no fun at all.
Having to tell people over and over again that you don’t want them to touch you gets old. While they might forget or not pay much attention, they should. If you aren’t interested in a hug you shouldn’t be forced into one. You have to repeat your boundaries time and time again until it is almost as if you are a broken record.
Hugs are almost always awkward but those awkward distant relative hugs are truly the worst. Sorry, uncle Tim, this is not something I want to deal with. Even a mere handshake is annoying but would be a lot less frustrating. If it makes you uncomfortable, don’t do it.
8. Trying to look unapproachable.
You don’t want other people to want to come up to you so you try to make yourself look unapproachable. You put on that resting bitch face and pretend you are busy. This doesn’t work as well as you wish it would.
9. The pain of having to share a bed with someone else.
You want to be close to the person you care about but sharing a bed is not something you are too fond of. You would much rather be one of those couples from the 50s with two single beds in one room. That would be ideal.
10. Dealing with people who don’t understand why you don’t like cuddling.
Cuddling is not your cup of tea. While it is something you can deal with you are not the kind of person to cuddle with your significant other all night long. You are more reserved than that.
11. Wanting to literally end anyone who thinks ‘tickling’ is okay.
Tickling is something that most people hate and yet people act as if it is alright. DO NOT tickle me means DO NOT tickle me. Why do people think they can violate others in this manner? Regardless of the situation, no means no.
12. The feeling you get when you can tell someone is about to try and ‘comfort’ you.
When you are feeling down and out the last thing you want is someone to comfort you. You want to be left alone and allowed some space. You don’t need a pat on the back.
13. That awkward motion you have to make to get someone to take their hand off of your shoulder.
That swift movement you make to get yourself out of this situation feels so relieving. It is as if you have accomplished so much in just doing that one thing. Yes, even a touch on the shoulder can be quite frustrating to someone who doesn’t like to be touched.
14. The annoying feeling when someone tries to flirt with you and gets too close.
Flirting is one thing but getting too close is another. It completely ruins things and makes that person’s chances with you next to none. You need your space.
15. The anger that comes with someone trying to whisper in your ear.
Sure, they aren’t technically touching you but you can feel their words beating against your ear and it is enough to drive you mad. This is one of those things most people will not understand but if you don’t like being touched you get it. The hot breath of someone else pressing against your flesh is enough to make you want to puke.
16. Having to explain time and time again that you don’t like to be touched.
Telling people over and over again that you don’t like to be touched gets well old but it is something that will happen all throughout your life. You will have to tell new people and remind old people. That is just how it is, sadly.
17. How annoying it is that people think you are joking when you say ‘don’t touch me.’
When you say don’t touch me and someone continues to try and touch you. This is like the ultimate way to piss you off. If you say no you mean no, what is it that other people don’t understand?
18. The disgusting moment when someone touches you with greasy hands while they’re eating.
Sure, sitting and having lunch with someone is great until they take their greasy hands and touch your arm. This is one of the most disgusting feelings you have ever gone through. You might even rush to the bathroom to wash your hands. Pet peeves are by the hundreds when it comes to things like this.
19. Waiting for the next elevator so you don’t have to risk bumping into someone else’s body.
You do not want to be confined with other people especially people you do not know. You avoid them like the plague and this is just one of those ways. You are not about to die in a falling elevator with other people smashed into you.
20. Having to tell people to stop trying to play with your hair.
You do not like having your hair played with. Just because most people like it doesn’t mean that everyone does. In this world, far too many people will ask to play with your hair time and time again.
21. The internal conflict every time you see that one friend that just doesn’t get it.
There will always be that one friend that just doesn’t understand. He or she will always accidentally touch you or hug you when they should know you aren’t about it. While you deal with it, it is quite irritating even if they have good intentions.
22. When people call you cold or rude because you aren’t overly touchy-feely.
Just because you aren’t overly physical doesn’t mean you are cold. Don’t let the words of other people bring you down. You don’t ever have to pretend to be someone you aren’t.
23. The struggle of trying to be there for someone without being their shoulder to cry on.
You might want to comfort someone else but finding a way to do so without having to pat them on the back is hard. It is a struggle that you have to work through and will work through. You are always there for people in the ways they truly need you to be.
24. The fear that someone might take that open seat next to you on the bus.
You carry a big purse and always try to make sure that you sit where there are plenty of seats to avoid having to sit with other people. That being said, everytime a group goes by you have that fear in your mind that one might ask to sit by you. This is something that is very real for most of us.