The dating game can be frustrating, trying to navigate between the roses and the thorns. When guys meet a new girl, they are never quite sure what they are in for… On one hand, he may have just struck gold. She may be everything that he has ever wanted – cool, laid back, interested in the same things and getting along easily with his buddies. On the other hand, however, he could find a complete psycho merely masking as a normal, functioning human being. She could be clingy, controlling, insulting, judgmental or require your attention 24/7, attempting to isolate you from your friends and family. Unfortunately, you can’t always tell without taking a risk and giving it your best shot.
With 7.6 billion people in the world, finding that ‘keeper’ can seem like an impossible challenge. The good news is that there are signs that you’ve found that perfect fit. Guys, there is one important thing to remember! Once you find her, don’t let her go! When you find that woman that fits your life, makes you happy and treats you with love and respect, make sure that you are doing the same in return!
Think you found a keeper? Here are 17 reasons you shouldn’t take her for granted:
#1 – She’s always excited to see you, even if it’s not always convenient.
No one wants to spend their life with someone that doesn’t care whether or not they are going see one another, you want to feel wanted and loved. If she is really a keeper she will be excited to see you, even if it’s not ‘perfect.’ She understands that every second together doesn’t have to be an elaborate date out of a romance novel, and is equally excited to just curl up on the couch with take-out in her PJs and watch a movie.
#2 – She believes in you, even when you don’t believe in yourself.
It’s easy in a relationship to have faith and trust in your partner’s ability to succeed when they are at the top of their game, but what about when you are facing a challenge. If she’s a keeper, she knows just how strong, talented and capable you are, and has complete faith that you will come out of this challenge a winner. Even if you are doubting yourself, she’s there to remind you that you can do it.
#3 – She’s always nice to you, even if you don’t deserve it.
Let’s be honest, we can all be jerks at one time or another in our lives. If you’ve pushed her buttons and pissed her off, but she’s still willing to treat you nicely pay attention. A keeper is willing to acknowledge that we all have our faults, but be warned – She will only take so much before she will walk away and find someone that will treat her better. Don’t mistake her compassion for foolishness.
#4 – She ‘gets’ you, knowing what you need without having to ask.
As your relationship grows and develops a keeper will pay careful attention to your needs in various situations. Over time she will begin a running file, storing this information away for next time. You will begin to notice that she already knows what you need without having to ask you first, almost as if she is reading your mind. Sure, there will always be new experiences and ‘one-off’ situations that will bring her back to the learning stage, but you can see she is making an effort. Here’s a piece of advice – if you want to make her feel just as loved and appreciated ensure that you are paying attention to her needs and desires as well!
#5 – She is independent, but still knows how to make you feel needed.
She is a strong capable woman, with the ability to face the world with grace and confidence. A keeper has the ability to stand on her own two feet, but she knows that standing alone isn’t going to make her happy long-term. Instead, she takes the steps to allow you into her life. She makes you feel needed, loved, appreciated and wanted, showing you that her life wouldn’t be the same without you, even if she could survive on her own (and she could).
#6 – She is 110% committed to your relationship, and her commitment is unconditional.
It’s not about being fully committed when you see the commitment from your partner, as we will all have highs and lows in our lives. She understands that a relationship is a partnership, a team, and at times the commitment from that team may feel a little one-sided short-term (note: short-term), but that we will all see an ebb and flow in our lives. Maybe this week your work needs to be the priority in terms of your time, and she has to step up to support you and give a little extra, but next week she may be the one that needs your support. It’s about always trying your hardest to give 110%, understanding that you will each fall short at one time or another.
#7 – She chooses you each and every day.
A relationship isn’t just about finding that one special person, choosing them once and then settling into a routine. After the initial lust and passion, relationships will go one of two ways – Either you will fall into a routine, ultimately leading to redundancy and a lack of passion, or you will make the effort to choose one another each and every day of your lives together. A keeper understands this fact and is willing to make the effort.
#8 – She refuses to let you push her away.
There may be times in our lives that, for one reason or another, you try to push her away. You may be dealing with something difficult and have convinced yourself that you don’t want to burden her with your struggles early in the relationship, or maybe you are struggling to admit that you have a soft side. Regardless of the reason, she sees right through your efforts and she isn’t going to be pushed away that easily. She confidently and firmly informs you that she is there for you 110%.
#9 – She values your time together, but also understands that you are your own person.
We all know that one couple, the ‘us’ couple. As soon as they get together they shed all evidence that they were ever independent people, instead, forming some combined identity that is entirely wound up together. They do everything together, EVERYTHING. In fact, they are incapable of doing anything alone. A keeper understands that you don’t need someone to ‘complete you’, you were each complete in and of yourselves. Instead, you are looking for someone to compliment you while still retaining your own identity.
#10 – She always answers your calls and texts, even if she’s mad at you.
Communication is one of the most important parts of any successful relationship, and it can’t just be during the good times. If you are going to last long term, you need to be able to talk through the good, the bad and the ugly. A keeper will keep that line of communication open, even if she’d rather not talk to you because she knows it’s importance.
#11 – She is always there for you, even if she doesn’t ask for the same in return.
She will always be there to support, encourage and care for you regardless of what life may throw at you. A keeper will make the effort to care for you when you are sick, hold you when you’re upset, encourage you when you’re discouraged and reach out a hand when you have fallen. While she may not ever ask the same from you in return, don’t make the mistake of failing her. A relationship is about a true partnership, caring for and supporting one another.
#12 – She goes out of her way to make you happy, even when she’s feeling down.
There are going to be times of great celebration together, but there are also going to be times when you each reach your lowest lows. Often you will take turns, with one of you struggling while the other is in the position to support, but this is not always the case. When life has you both down, a keeper will still make the effort to try to make you happy, while also focusing on her own well-being. Even at her lowest low, her love for you prevails.
#13 – She is true to her word, and you know you can count on her.
When she says she is going to do something, she does it. She doesn’t make excuses, conveniently ‘forget’ or try to weasel her way out of it. A keeper knows that her word is the most important thing that she’s got, and she isn’t about to devalue that. You know that her word is gold, and you would be willing to bet everything that you own on it. Your relationship will be one of great trust if you make the same effort with your own.
#14 – She doesn’t play games.
We all know that person, the one who views love as nothing more than a game to be played, and the people around them as mere pawns. Life can be challenging enough without having to question the intentions of the one person you should be able to trust. She isn’t interested in playing games. A keeper genuinely cares about you and your relationship, and she’s looking for someone that shares this view.
#15 – She is mature enough to handle the difficult things.
There are going to be things in your relationship that are difficult, awkward or hard to handle. You aren’t always going to see eye to eye, and the compromise for your relationship is not always going to be easy. While some women may be completely wrapped up in their own interests, a keeper understands that you can’t just ignore the difficult things in life in the hope that it will go away. She is mature enough to tackle them head on and will make compromises at times to put your relationship before her own personal interests, but she expects that you will do the same.
#16 – She is willing to give you her undivided attention.
While there will be times that her focus is somewhere else, she understands the importance of finding time in her day to make you the #1 priority. During this time, she is willing to close her laptop, put down her phone, turn off the television and dedicate her attention to you, only you. She shows interest in your life and the stories that you share. Make sure that you are doing the same for her!
#17 – Not only is she not afraid to show she loves you, she is proud to.
She isn’t ashamed of you or hiding your relationship. She shows her love and affection for you on a regular basis, allowing you to feel confident in where you stand. It is important to note, however, that there are many different ways of showing love and she may not show love the same way that you do. You may have to take the time to learn how to hear what she is saying, just as she will need to do the same for you, in order to build a strong, confident relationship.