Have you ever found yourself completely lost in your own thoughts, paralyzed to take action? Have you been so worried about the ‘what ifs’ of a situation that you can’t seem to take the first step towards any tangible goal? Does the very thought of taking the first step towards action cause you anxiety?
Living the life of an overthinker can be incredibly difficult. You may feel as though you are all alone, but rest assured… you’re definitely not! Experts report that approximately 73% of 25-35-year-olds identify as overthinkers. That means that the majority of Americans are struggling with the same
This need for data, information and logical decisions isn’t necessarily a bad thing, however, when it gets out of control it can make an already stressful situation seem far worse, overcomplicate even the easiest of daily tasks and hold you back from moving forward in your life. The phenomenon is referred to as ‘analysis paralysis’ – a situation in which you are so busy analyzing what may or may not happen that you actually feel paralyzed in the decision-making process.
Here are 15 habits that every other-thinker shares, but no one ever talks about:
1. When you do let loose, you have a great time.
It is a very rare occasion when an over-thinker stops thinking long enough to have fun, however, when you do finally turn your mind off (usually through intoxication) you’re are a total party animal.
2. You always prioritize the happiness of others.
When given the opportunity to choose between your own happiness and the happiness of others around you, you will always put others first. There is nothing that you want more in life than to bring joy and laughter to everyone in your life.
3. You seek validation from others.
As you are always questioning and second-guessing your own decisions, unable to settle on anything final, you often turn to the validation of others to assure you that you are making the right decisions in life.
4. You apologize for everything.
When I say that you apologize for everything, I mean EVERYTHING. It doesn’t matter what happened, who was at fault or if you were even involved. Unfortunately, this often makes you the scapegoat.
5. You are a perfectionist.
You refuse to settle for anything less than perfect in this life. After all, if something is worth doing then it is worth doing right, no? You take the time to make sure that every last detail is pristine before you are happy with a ‘job well done.’
6. You are highly insecure.
As an over-thinker, you put an incredible amount of time into every decision that you make. For this reason, you often take any criticism of your choices as a personal attack.
7. You subscribe to all or nothing thinking.
When you look at situations in your life, you tend to see them in terms of black and white, or right and wrong. For example, if you planned a date night for your spouse, and the coffee happened to be cold when at one point in the night, then you believe the entire night was a disaster.
8. You are a great conversationalist.
Over-thinkers are typically very creative individuals with a wide variety of hobbies and interests. For this reason, they rarely struggle to find a common interest when striking up a conversation with anyone.
9. You over worry and over-exaggerate.
When you are considering the things that could potentially go wrong with a given situation you immediately jump to extremes. For example, the smallest amount of heartburn is instantly a heart attack in your mind, and if you stub your toe you’ve obviously broken your something in your foot.
10. You often believe that situations are hopeless.
You may go into the situation with faith that you are going to find the perfect solution, however, with time you begin to watch that faith slip away. Instead, you are overcome by the growing thoughts of everything that could possibly go wrong.
11. You have a rough sleep schedule.
Your mind is always running, it never slows down. When nighttime comes around, and everyone else goes to sleep, you are still lost in your thoughts. This severely limits the amount of sleep you get each night.
12. You have difficulty trusting others.
Due to your ability to see the absolute worst in every possible situation, you can’t help but see all the ways that someone can do you wrong. This awareness of the dark side of the human population makes it increasingly difficult for you to actually trust anyone.
13. You are incredibly self-critical.
There are going to be times in life that you make a bad decision, that’s a fact. Despite acknowledging this truth, you come down on yourself really hard for even the smallest of mistakes.
14. You are an incredible problem solver.
While this list may highlight many of the negatives of being an over-thinker, there are few people in the world that possess the critical thinking skills that you show on a daily basis. Seeing every situation in life as a problem waiting to happen, you have developed a mastery of problem-solving.
15. You dread the idea of travelling.
It’s not that you don’t want to go new places and see the world, but there are so many variables and so much that could go wrong. The very idea of travelling sends your head spinning to the point of a full-on anxiety attack.
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