When it comes to dating there are lots of compromises that will have to be made in order for everyone to be cared for properly but sometimes we have to put our foot down. There are a lot of deal-breakers present in this day and age that should not be overlooked but for some reason usually, are.
What might be a deal-breaker for you might not be a deal-breaker for me and vice versa but in the end, a lot of things can be agreed on regardless of who you are. While you might really like someone and want things to work, everyone needs to be on the same page for that to happen. If you’re putting forth all of the efforts or you’re letting your values go, you are not in a relationship that is serving you properly moving forward. Sometimes we find ourselves too close to toxic people and when that happens we have to be willing to close ourselves off and cut ties in order to better our own lives.
Below you will find a list of some of the more commonly overlooked relationship deal-breakers. Perhaps you will disagree with some of these but overall most of them will probably resonate with you. If you’re with someone who is forcing these things to happen or refusing to work on the problems you’re having, you need to make some changes and find someone more worth your time.
13 Huge Deal-Breakers When It Comes To Dating:
1. Serious things have changed in regards to the two of you.
While you might have lined up in the beginning or perhaps didn’t bother to discuss the serious things in regards to your lives or where you’re headed as we get older and spend more time together things can change. If you wanted kids and your partner now has decided he/she isn’t interested in having any perhaps you need to find someone else. You can’t make someone do something that they don’t want to do, especially something so significant overall.
2. Your partner isn’t putting forth any real effort to make things work.
If the person you’re with or interested in overall isn’t taking the time to make things work all the while you’re trying your best to get along and work through things, you shouldn’t waste your time. We are not promised tomorrow and you need to spend your days with someone who actually wants to be with you. Happiness is not something you should merely do without.
Sometimes financial issues are more than enough to ruin a relationship. If your partner is irresponsible or you’re both unable to get things right calling it quits might be in the best interest of both of you. Just because someone wants to be with you doesn’t mean you should be with them.
4. Your partner refuses to talk about the problems you’re facing.
If you and your partner are unable to properly communicate then that in itself should be a deal-breaker. You both have to be able to sit down and talk through the problems within your relationship. In life we go through ups and downs, that is not something that you can just ignore.
5. Your partner uses your weaknesses and insecurities against you.
You should never be with someone who is willing to beat you down for the hell of it. When you’re arguing you need to both remain as ‘adult’ as possible regardless of the situation. You shouldn’t be making petty blows at one another.
6. Your partner is never following through properly anymore.
Being with someone who is literally a hypocrite is not a good thing. At some point, you’re going to get fed up and tired of doing all that you do. If your partner refuses to do what he/she says he/she will do, leave them.
The more you argue the more clear it should become that things are beyond fixable. Sometimes the fighting just becomes too much. Just because you love one another doesn’t mean you’re meant to be together.
8. Distance is getting too hard to manage.
If you and your partner are not able to physically be together and you cannot handle the distance it is okay to call it quits. You don’t have to be with someone just because they love you or just because you feel a connection. Sometimes there are other things in life that get in the way and moving on is in some cases the best option. Do what is best for you.
9. You or your partner are still stuck in the past.
If your lover is stuck in the past or you’re obsessed with an ex being with someone else is only going to be causing more damage than it’s worth. We all need to be present in the current moment when it comes to truly being with someone. You cannot wish for something you once had all the while trying to make something you currently have work.
When you’re dating someone who is hurting you, you need to get out. Abuse and mistreatment overall are not to be tolerated. These kinds of things should be nipped in the rear end long before they progress into something serious.
Whether you’re the one with a drug/alcohol issue or it’s your lover something has got to give. While you can be by one another’s side and try to help one another if things aren’t changing you have to do what is best for you. If getting out of the situation will make things better, do it.
12. You do not feel appreciated.
When it comes to love we all need to feel appreciated. If you’re being taken advantage of or treated badly stop wasting your time. You deserve someone that will make sure you know how important you are above all else.
13. You cannot trust your partner or your partner cannot trust you.
When there is a lack of trust regardless of where it is stemming from things will never work. If you both cannot get over the problem and move on together you don’t need to stay with one another. Trust is not something you can do without in this kind of romantic relationship.