There are two main kinds of people in the world – those who thrive off social gatherings, drawing their energy from the fast-pace and the people that they surround themselves with, and those who prefer to spend their valuable time on their own. Unfortunately, for some reason in our society, those who value their alone time are often stigmatized as anti-social, lonely or unhappy. While there certainly are some people who aren’t alone by choice, forced into a situation that does make them sad or disappointed, there are also many who actively chose to schedule alone time into their daily routine.
These individuals genuinely enjoy the feeling of calm and contentment that they experience only when spending time on their own. Calm and quiet aren’t the only benefits that come from this ‘me time.’ In fact, those who embrace their time alone will see a number of positive changes in their lives.
12 Things That Will Happen Once You Learn to Enjoy Being Alone:
#1 – More Independent
Some people actually become reliant upon having others around largely because they fear that they don’t have the ability to spend time alone. Trust in yourself and take some much needed ‘me time,’ and you will discover that not only do you have the ability, you are stronger and more confident than you ever believed to be true.
#2 – Get in Touch with Your Emotions
In order to truly get in touch with your emotions, you need to provide yourself with the time and the quiet to listen to your own heart. Take some time, silence your mind and allow yourself to just feel, you will be surprised how many emotions you may have been overlooking on a daily basis.
#3 – Improved Relationships
This may sound counterproductive, but did you know that by spending some time apart from the people you love, you will actually grow to love them even more? Spending some alone time will give you the much-needed opportunity to truly appreciate the people in your life.
#4 – Discover Your True Self
It’s easy to get caught up in society’s expectations of who we should be, what we should want out of life and what path we should be in. Have you ever truly stepped back to discover whether the you that you are becoming is your true self? Time alone will allow you to discover who you are free from the outside pressures.
#5 – An Opportunity to Recharge
If you are always spending your time surrounded by a large number of people, then you have no time to rest physically, mentally and emotionally. Taking some ‘me time’ gives yourself the opportunity to recharge your batteries and calm your mind, gathering the energy to face another day.
#6 – A Break from Worrying About the Happiness of Others
When you are surrounded by people that you care about dearly you may find that much of your time and energy is focused on their happiness and what you can do to improve it. This isn’t a bad trait, in fact it’s admirable. However, you also need to find time to focus on your own happiness. Taking some alone time will allow you to do just that.
#7 – Doing Things You Enjoy
When you allow your life to revolve around everyone else, then you will find yourself making sacrifices and compromises in order to keep the group happy. While there is nothing wrong with this, it is also important to take some time to yourself where you can pursue the things that bring you true joy.
#8 – Stop Seeking Validation
When we are around our friends and family all the time, it can be easy to fall into the trap of seeking validation in order to improve our feelings of self worth. When you are alone there is no one to turn to but yourself, forcing you to build up your own self-confidence and self-esteem.
#9 – A Chance for Reflection
We live in a high-energy, fast-paced world, and keeping up with that type of crazy schedule leaves very little room to stop and reconsider everything that has happened. Reflection allows us to learn from the day’s events, and that will only happen if you take the time somewhere quiet to step back and look back on your day.
#10 – Learn to Let Go
There are so many things that we hold onto in our daily lives, many of which we aren’t even aware of – emotions, thoughts, past hurts, memories, experiences, the places we have visited, the people we have met. Some of these things are positive, bringing us feelings of happiness and joy, but what about those that bring negativity? Alone time will allow you the opportunity to process this and let go of the things that are weighing you down.
#11 – Improved Productivity
Surrounded all day by other people, you may find that you are easily and often distracted, keeping you from focusing on the task at hand. After all, who can resist some time socializing with friends from time to time, right? Taking some time alone will give you the peace and quiet you need to improve your productivity significantly.
#12 – No Need to Apologize
One of the greatest things about spending time alone is that you no longer need to apologize to anyone. There is no one else to upset or offend, no one whose feelings may be hurt by what you say or do. In that moment, it’s just you and that takes a lot of the pressure off.