It’s an experience that no one wants to face, but breakups are a necessary evil in the dating world. If you are currently facing a heartbreaking breakup, take some time to focus on you and how to help yourself move past this difficult time.
There is no way to avoid the pain of heartbreak except to close yourself off to the world, which will prevent you from finding love altogether. If you hope to find your true love, you have to convince yourself to keep your heart and mind open despite the risks you face. That being said, you don’t have to give in to the hopelessness that comes with a breakup. Instead, stand up, brush yourself off and regain control of your life.
Here are 10 ways to find happiness after suffering the heartbreak of a failed relationship:
#1 – Take a break from social media.
Social media is both an amazing tool for connection and an extremely toxic place all at the same time. While it may provide you with an opportunity to connect with friends and loved ones, try taking this need for socialization offline instead. The atmosphere that social media creates has been associated with a number of mental health struggles, and you don’t need that negativity right now. Instead, call up your closest friends and head out for a cup of coffee.
#2 – Give yourself a mini makeover.
This is a new chapter in your life. Why not mark this time in your life with a new look? Try a new hairstyle or color, pick up a new outfit or try out a new makeup look. When we feel good about how we look, it makes us feel better in general. Take advantage of this.
#3 – Step back and take a moment to focus on yourself.
Sometimes, when we are in a relationship, we become so swept up in the ‘us’ that we forget who we are as an individual. This makes the break up even more challenging, as you are left wondering who you are on your own. Take this opportunity to start reconsidering what makes you happy, what goals you want to achieve and who you are as a person. Turn this into a time of self-discovery and self-growth.
#4 – Get yourself up and moving, discovering new types of physical activity.
Rather than wallowing in self-pity, push yourself up to get up and moving. Physical activity triggers the body to release feel-good hormones, boosting your mood. This can help to pull you out of your emotional slump post-breakup. Furthermore, when you are physically feeling better, it helps you to feel better about yourself.
#5 – Throw out/give away every reminder of your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend.
It’s time to face your life with a clean slate, ready to move forward. You aren’t going to be able to do this if you are constantly focusing on the past. Take everything that you currently have that reminds you of your ex and get it out of the house. Throw it out, sell it, give it away, or have a bonfire with friends and take enjoyment out of watching it burn. Whatever method you choose, purge your life of these unnecessary reminders.
#6 – Surround yourself with friends and family who care.
Often when people are dealing with heartbreak they respond by isolating themselves from the world. However, this response is completely counterproductive. Rather than denying yourself contact with the outside world, surround yourself with family and friends. These are the people who truly want to see you work through this and come out on the others side. They love you and care for you and want nothing more than to support you at this trying time.
#7 – Get out and try something new.
Ok, so your life is currently upside down and you don’t know where to start picking up the pieces. Rather than focusing on trying to make sense of the past, get out there and start moving on with your life. Meet some new people or pick up a new hobby. Is there something you’ve always wanted to learn how to do? Now is the perfect time! Learn a new language, pick up a musical instrument or take that writing class you have been considering taking.
#8 – Take time to do something meaningful for someone else.
Rather than spending all of your time focusing on yourself and the way that things are going in your own life, consider refocusing this energy on others. Find an opportunity to volunteer, take part in community service or find a way that you can help someone in your community. You can make a difference in someone else’s life while simultaneously boosting your mood.
#9 – Acknowledge your feelings in a real and tangible way.
The worst thing that you can do right now if you plan on moving forward is to bury away your heartbreak and pain. Why? In doing so, you are actually holding onto this negativity, and it will eventually bubble back to the surface. Rather than giving it the opportunity to come back to haunt you, allow yourself to acknowledge and work through these feelings, letting them go once and for all. This can be done by talking through your feelings with a friend, writing in a journal, or writing a letter to your ex (you don’t even have to send it).
#10 – When your heart is ready, start dating again.
This isn’t a point that you need to rush into doing, but it’s definitely one worth considering when talking about moving on with your life. There will eventually come a day when you decide that your heart has healed enough that you can venture back into the dating game. Don’t hold back! Don’t allow one failed relationship to prevent you from finding love again – after all, love is out there waiting for you!