We all have that one friend who is a bit too harsh, but always speaks the truth whether we want to hear it or not. These friends can hurt our feelings, but they always seem to have our best interest at heart.
According to research that was published in the journal Psychological Science, those friends may be the best ones to have. Friends who tend to make us experience the negative emotions we need to feel care more about us, this is because they know how beneficial seeing the truth really is. This research was conducted at the University of Plymouth and included around 140 adult participants.
Researchers observed the behaviors of these people during hypothetical situations. For instance, they generated the fear of failure to a friend who instead of learning for exams procrastinated and never actually did any studying. They asked these participants to take another person’s point of view and in that increased the likelihood of them choosing negative experiences and emotions for the other person especially if they thought the experience would be helpful.
The ‘mean’ friends are only doing what they think is best. They are helping to hopefully push you towards what is best for you. While, of course, some people go overboard this friend really cares about you. Did we really need a study to prove this? Well, whether we needed one or not we got one.
The results of this study confirmed that people are sometimes cruel in order to be kind. While these people may be mean and you may not consider these friends your favorite because of it, they have your best interest at heart. If you have a mean friend that refuses to lie and always pushes you to see the sides of things you don’t to, thank them. These people should be appreciated far more than they are.
Tough love is a very real thing and it does work. True friends will not sugar coat the world for you. If you are the mean friend, GOOD JOB! Keep doing what you are doing.