Turn on the television or spend a little time on social media and you will find yourself inundated with articles, stories, televisions shows, and movies all painting a picture that love and romance, as it was once known, is dead. We are often told that the sweep you off your feet romance of the past has been lost, replaced instead with one-night stands, divorce and an egocentric approach to life.
Despite all of this negativity, 87% of Americans still believe in the idea of true love. Sure, it’s not going to be easy, but if you’re willing to learn and grow, taking note of your mistakes along the way and improving upon them, then you can still enjoy a happy and successful love life! It starts with acknowledging that you aren’t perfect and identifying the areas that you are able to improve.
Your zodiac sign reveals a number of key personality traits that describe who you are and how you approach life. By looking at these traits, we can predict the mistakes you will likely make when it comes to love, romance, dating, and relationships. Read through these relationships while looking back on the failed relationships of your past, do they help you to better understand why things didn’t work out? If you can take the steps to overcome these errors, you will set yourself up for success!
Here Are the Most Common Relationship Problems for Your Zodiac Sign:
Aries (March 21 – April 19)
Confident and determined, you know what you want in this life, and you aren’t about to allow anyone to tell you otherwise. Unfortunately for your love life, this intense focus on your own needs, wants and desires often leaves your partner feeling unheard and unappreciated. Try to remind yourself that there is someone else in the mix, that’s the whole point of a ‘partnership.’
If you do manage to find someone that is willing to overlook your flaws and quirks, accepting that you can become a little ‘me-centric’ from time to time, there are a few specific flaws that could cause this relationship to come crashing down. While you are driven and high-energy, the pace at which you generally take life may be exhausting for others. Learn to slow down a little, enjoy the moment and, most importantly, learn the value in saying no! You don’t have to do everything, as tempting as that may be.
Finally, the biggest struggle you have in terms of love revolves around those relationships that aren’t going to stand the test of time. You have a very difficult time accepting that not every relationship is designed to last, especially those that are negative or toxic in nature. You are not failing by walking away when a relationship is actually damaging to your mental and emotional well-being. Don’t allow yourself to be caught up in the need to prove that you can make it work. There are times in life when you really do need to put yourself first, and this is one of them.
Taurus (April 20 – May 20)
Often looked up to as the most loyal of the signs, everyone assumes that you are destined to have a love life worthy of admiration, however, this isn’t always the case. In fact, you have a number of serious struggles and concerns when it comes to your love life. First, there is the fact that with your incredible loyalty comes a possessiveness and need for control that some may find to be suffocating. You have your opinions on how things should go, and while they may not completely match up with your partners, the word ‘compromise’ isn’t in your vocabulary.
You can be incredibly judgmental, which is difficult for anyone to accept, especially on an ongoing basis. If someone does cross the line, break your ‘rules’ (there are many, after all, you won’t compromise) or hurt you in some way, you aren’t one to walk away from a relationship. Instead, you will tap into your vengeful side, seeking revenge for every way that they did you wrong. Trust me, no one wants to get on your bad side!
There is no arguing the fact you have high expectations in your relationship, and they include all areas of the relationship. You expect total dedication and focus from your partner, you want to be prioritized on a regular basis, complete honesty and you have incredibly high demands in the bedroom. Fail to meet any of the above, and your partner will feel your wrath.
Gemini (May 21 – June 20)
Upbeat, positive and highly social, you LOVE meeting new people, which makes it incredibly easy to meet prospective lovers. In fact, you are never single for long. As soon as a relationship ends, you are out seeking your next fling. While you are rarely single, you also fail to develop many deep, lasting relationships. Instead, you want something fun, easy and free of trouble. As soon as a relationship settles into a ‘comfortable’ zone, you tend to get bored and move on.
If you don’t want to spend the rest of your life alone, it is time for a little tough love. You need to look past your own need for fun and excitement and realize that these are real people with real thoughts, feelings, and emotions. This is an important distinction as you often see the people around you as nothing more than a toy for you to play with.
There are a few sacrifices you are going to have to make in order for any relationship to last. First, you will need to let go of your fear of routine. Some ‘normalcy’ in a relationship is healthy. If you are looking to move in with someone special, you will have to let go of some control of your living space. A home will need to be a combination of the two of you, not just your own preferences.
Cancer (June 21 – July 22)
You are incredibly sensitive, a trait that is both a blessing and a curse. On one hand, you can empathize with the emotional state of your partner, even if they are struggling with difficulties relating to your relationship. You will give 110% to try to keep your partner happy, catering to their needs and desires, however, this often leaves you feeling as though you have been forgotten about in the shuffle.
You have a deep need for love and affection, and when you aren’t feeling it you will feel hurt and discarded. If your partner isn’t focusing on you 110%, it will leave you questioning whether your relationship is actually falling apart. This will trigger a fear that your partner is planning on leaving you, causing you to read into every situation a little too far. Try to take a step back and view the situation with a rational state of mind.
There is nothing that you want more in this life than to find that ‘special someone,’ settle down and start your family. This may cause you to see every relationship you enter into far more seriously than your partner is ready to take it. Pay attention to where your partner is at in your relationship. You don’t want to push them too far, or you may end up pushing them right out the door.
Leo (July 23 – August 22)
You are incredibly proud and driven, with a clear view of where you are going in life. Unfortunately, this view is based 110% on your own needs wants and desires, and you completely overlook the needs of your partner. Instead, your biggest priority is your ego and your need for it to be fed at all costs. You look to your partner as a constant source of affection and adoration, and if they fall short of this expectation then you are left feeling disappointed and neglected.
When it comes to that ‘perfect life together,’ you are looking for a secure and stable home life. This includes not only in the actual relationship but also financial security. You may have a solid career, succeeding in all that you do, but you still believe that your partner should work harder to ensure that the responsibilities both inside and outside the home are met. After all, you are far too busy chasing your down your goals and dreams to waste energy on these little details.
You certainly aren’t one to share your emotions with the world, making a point of keeping them under a secure lock and key. This doesn’t, however, mean that you aren’t actually struggling with difficult emotions, simply that you are avoiding expressing them. If they are left unchecked, these emotions will continue to fester beneath the surface until such time that you completely boil over. You will be better off if you step out of your comfort zone and learn to share your vulnerable side with those you trust.
Virgo (August 23 – September 22)
When you give yourself to a relationship, you do so 110%, wearing your heart on your sleeve. Not only do you give everything you have to your partner, but you want to spend every waking moment together without exception. While this may make total sense to you, it will often leave your partner feeling suffocated and overwhelmed. Living your life in this way is incredibly unhealthy – you need to learn to take a step back and give one another a little space.
You try to make your relationship perfect in every way, and this often involves burying any concerns, negative thoughts or upset that you have in relation to your partner. While this may keep the peace in the short term, holding onto this pain and hostility will only cause trouble for your relationship in the long-run. You need to learn to share your concerns, stand up for yourself and avoid compromising too often and too easy, or it will only create resentment.
In your attempts to make everything work seamlessly and easily in your relationship you will take on as much of the responsibilities as you can bear. This may seem like a good idea at the time, however, it is going to cause you significant stress. Start sharing the responsibilities early to lay the foundation for a healthy relationship.
Libra (September 23 – October 22)
You dedicate your life to the discovery of balance and harmony in every situation. Rather than making a snap judgment, you pride yourself on keeping your mind open and seeing all sides. While this may be a great trait in some situations, it often leads you to believe that you can save everyone even if they aren’t interested in being saved. The first lesson you need to learn is that you can’t save anyone that doesn’t want to be saved! Don’t even waste your time trying, you will only end up frustrated, disappointed and hurt.
While some people know what they want when it comes to their love life, you are the exact opposite. You have no idea what you are looking for, and this lack of direction means you are often sucked into relationships that don’t fit into your life or are toxic in nature. You need to take some time to collect your thoughts and considered what exactly you hope to find in a life partner. Until you do, hold off on jumping into anything serious.
In your well-intentioned attempts to save the feelings of those that you care about, you often convince yourself that a lie is better than causing someone pain. While you may spin an incredibly believable life, shortly after telling it you often slip up as you fail to take the necessary steps to avoid getting caught. This is never going to end well, and you are honestly better off just telling the truth to begin with.
Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)
You are incredibly passionate about life, and this often causes you to jump into your relationships with a high level of excitement right from the first moment. Try to pay attention to your potential partner and their comfort with the speed that you are moving at, as you may be pushing them too quickly which will scare them off. If you do manage to find a happy medium between the two and establish a lasting relationship you will notice that this passion and excitement which is so intense in the beginning will begin to quickly fade off. You will need to continue to take steps to reignite the excitement in your relationship in order to avoid losing interest entirely.
Loving with all of your heart, and not holding anything back, your relationships are a highly emotional experience. When you finally trust someone enough to let them in, you will bare your heart leaving you highly vulnerable. Despite your strong, cold exterior, you are actually incredibly sensitive and easily hurt. This is largely due to the fact that you take everything personally, a fact that only you can control. Before lashing out, take a deep breath and try to look at the situation with unbiased eyes. You will often find that the personal attack that you are facing isn’t actually a personal attack at all.
Slow to trust, it will take someone who is willing to prove they are worthy of your love and devotion, however, even taking those steps will not prevent you from ever experiencing pain and heartache. If someone does manage to worm their way in only to manipulate you or stab you in the back, you will instantly banish them from your life entirely without hesitation. You certainly aren’t one to give second chances.
Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)
You live your life following your heart, the heart of a wanderer. Jumping from one adventure to the next, you are most at home with the excitement is high, and you are abandoning all limitations in life. This free-spirited approach to life isn’t for everyone and will make many people feel uncomfortable which is going to severely limit your pool of potential life partners. You will have to decide, are you willing to slow down and make sacrifices to find someone faster, or are you determined to find someone to fit into your adventurous lifestyle regardless of how long it may take?
This need for freedom may manifest itself in a number of different ways, each requiring a special someone that is interested in that lifestyle. This includes free reign to travel significant lengths of time and distances on your own, schedules that allow for larger blocks of time apart or even an open relationship. Remember, this isn’t the life for everyone, so you may need to be patient while you find someone whose goals in life line up with your own.
Your expectations in a relationship are high, so high that most people will fall short. You want everything all at once – stunning physical appearance, good style, an amiable personality, drive, passion and an electric chemistry. While there is nothing wrong with setting the bar high, you may want to consider the fact that you aren’t perfect, so why do you expect someone else to be?
Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)
You are incredibly analytical and detail focused, with a very clear idea of just what you are looking for in a relationship. In fact, you have mapped out that ‘ideal life partner’ right down to the finest details. There is one important thing, however, that you haven’t accounted for – the role that emotions play when it comes to love and romance. While you may not choose to share your emotional side, you are far more sensitive than you care to admit, and these emotions may cause you to forget about everything else you have considered.
When you commit, you give everything. You dedicate your life to keeping your partner happy, even if it means great sacrifice on your part. It is important to remember that a healthy relationship is a true partnership in which both parties compromise to find a healthy common ground. Give your partner the opportunity to take these steps and focus on you as well, and you will be surprised how willing they are if they truly love you. If they aren’t willing to compromise and work with you, stop making excuses and don’t settle for less than you deserve.
With even the healthiest of relationships will come struggles and disagreements at one time or another. This doesn’t mean the relationship is bad or flawed, this is a natural part of life. While you generally go out of your way to avoid conflict at all costs, simply giving in and walking away at the first sign, this isn’t the foundation of a functional relationship. Instead, learn to disagree in a healthy way, respecting one another while working through your difference of opinion and finding a solution that works for everyone.
Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)
There is no denying the fact that you are one of a kind, and you aren’t about to apologize for it. You live your life proud of the things that make you stand apart from the rest of the pack, and you should! However, you also need to recognize that this may make it a little more challenging to find that perfect partner, as it will take someone that not only accepts your individuality but genuinely loves you for it.
Communication is often a difficult part of any relationship for you as you struggle to express exactly what you are feeling. Furthermore, even when you do think you are getting your point across, it is often a challenge for others to understand and interpret what you mean which leaves you misunderstood. You speak your own language, and your partner is going to have to learn how to translate it. Try to be patient with them as they slowly work through all of this. No one learned a new language in a day. This may mean trying to explain yourself better or asking questions to ensure that your point is genuinely getting across. Just be sure that you aren’t doing it in a way that comes across as being annoyed or frustrated with the situation.
You struggle with a fear of commitment, and you are going to have to work through the underlying reasons for this fear if you are going to make your relationship last. You worry that your partner is going to try to change you, stripping you of the personal identity that makes you one of a kind, and if they don’t, then you fear you’ll get bored and start to push your partner away. Discussing these concerns with your partner will allow you to work through them together. They can’t fight alongside you unless you let them know what you’re fighting against.
Pisces (February 19 – March 20)
The king/queen of romance, you have been dreaming about finding your soulmate and riding off into the sunset together your whole life. All of this daydreaming has built up an elaborate and over the top view of love, one that you haven’t shared with anyone. Unfortunately, in all honesty, the real thing is going to fall short. Life isn’t a Disney fairy-tale. It’s messy and challenging, a roller coaster that will require dedication, devotion, and compromise, however, if you’re willing to work through the struggles, you will find that partner that makes it all worth it.
You are a highly sensitive and emotional individual, and these emotions drive every choice that you make in life, however, you struggle to put these thoughts into words. Without explaining how you are feeling to your partner, it will be incredibly different for them to understand what you are going through. Try activities like journaling to help you start expressing how you are feeling in a way that you can share with others. Doing so will take your relationship to the next level, bringing you closer together. You equate honestly and transparency with respect, so you get upset if your partner doesn’t open up to you but try to remember that this is a two-way street.
You aren’t the bold, outgoing person that dominates the room, preferring to step back and take in everything that is happening around you. This reserved approach to life may confuse your potential partners, as it can make it difficult to determine whether or not you’re actually interested. If you don’t step outside your comfort zone and open up a little, this may leave you feeling as though you are far more interested in them than they are in you, leading to the end of the relationship before it ever had a chance to truly begin.
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