Verbal abuse is something everyone goes through at some point in their lives. Sadly, the only way to respond to such behavior is to put an end to it.
When it comes to verbal abuse there are tons of different kinds and for the most part, it consists of withholding information, blaming someone for something that they cannot control, or calling them names. Generally, it can occur in any kind of relationship but most often romantic relationships or relationships between children and their parents. However, this is not to say that verbal abuse is limited to these relationships because even a stranger can verbally abuse you and some actually do.
There is no excuse for verbal abuse of any kind. When someone resorts to verbal abuse they are completely abandoning their standpoint on whatever the discussion was about. When it comes to addressing the issue of someone who is verbally abusing you, do not use verbal abuse to combat verbal abuse. I know, I know, this is a hard one but it must be done this way.
You need to remain calm and explain to the other person (the one verbally abusing you) that their behavior is not proper or acceptable because it makes you feel bad. No, I am not telling you to whine to them about it, simply let them know. Then you need to work together to resolve the issue at hand.
Reasoning with a verbal abuser is not something that will work for the most part so calling the abuser out is the best option. Merely ignore what is being said, address it in your mind and identify what it is, and from there calmly ask the abuser to stop. Do not demand that they stop, always ASK.
Never raise your voice or attempt to make them uncomfortable. The point is to calm them down to your level so that they can see the error in what they are doing. This can never be achieved if you are allowing yourself to turn into a ball of rage.
Sadly, occasionally there will be instances where calling them out will not work when this happens we should remove ourselves from the situation. Sure, yelling back and calling them names would feel good for the time being but it would not accomplish anything. Getting away from them without responding further will put you coming out on top without involving yourself in the conflict that was to come.
I guess this all boils down to bringing the abuse to light so that it can be dealt with. Once again, easier said than done. I for one have struggled with doing this at least a handful of times throughout my life.
This is a good way to show the abuser that what they are doing or how they are choosing to handle something is flawed or not rational. Once they notice you are not going to put up with that kind of behavior they may change their behavior in order to gain access back into your life. Of course, ending a relationship with someone who is important to you like your spouse who may very well even be the mother or father to your children is never easy but sometimes it is necessary.
In order to minimize the damage done by the abuse you are going through removing yourself from the situation is always best. For more information on this check out the video below. Have you ever dealt with someone who was verbally abusive towards you?