The effect that a narcissistic parent can have on their child can reverberate for ages. Sadly, if the narcissistic abuse is never addressed, terrible things can happen inside the mind of the child.
The daughter of a narcissist is someone who has many wounds and does not know how to address any of them. She has allowed her mother or father to slowly ruin her life and sadly her children if ever she has any will suffer because of this. Since she is still devoted to her mother who is going to be the mother to her children? The child will either have to do the same or he or she will resent the grandparent for taking away what was supposed to be a loving mother. Generational narcissistic abuse is a very serious issue.
Children pick up on things a lot better than we usually give them credit for. If their friend’s mothers treat them better they will wonder why their own home is so different. After suffering for so long it is hard to pull someone out and so often times even if the child realizes what is going on there is no hope for the lost parent. If the child gives into the narcissistic abuse he or she will be doomed to live the same fate as the parent but if the child moves on with his or her life all contact will have to be severed and that is hard to do, especially when you are still young. Living with abuse until you are able to leave sounds a lot simpler than it is especially when that abuse is on a scale like this, mind tricks have a way of easing their way into everything the more you are around them.
Think about it like this, your mom spends all her time catering to your grandmother while you are being overlooked, does that feel good? No. You resent your grandmother and are mad at your own mother for doing this to you. Now, your grandmother might be nice to you and you may be able to find happiness as long as she is spoiling you while you are in your younger years but once you begin thinking for yourself you notice the cracks and wedge your way through them. You will struggle to figure out where to go from here and what needs to be done but it will all work out if you keep at it.
Some people are not strong enough to do this and they fall victim to the brainwashing so if your cousins or siblings don’t see the abuse for what it is that could be why. They could be far too psychologically messed up now to see through the cracks. Sure, getting through this sort of thing will be hard but it is worth it. Breaking away from someone who mistreats you is never a bad thing.
Sure they may be blood relatives but if they are mistreating you they are not family. If your mother or father refuses to see the abuse your grandparent is putting them through it is up to you to stop the trend. You will feel alone, you will be disappointed, you will be hurt for a long time to come but if you really want better for yourself getting out is the only answer.
Have you ever been through narcissistic abuse of any kind if so how did you get through it? For more information on narcissists check out the video below. Narcissistic abuse is very dangerous, please never put up with it, you deserve so much better.