If you are aiming for emotional intelligence and yet you keep falling short you may be going about it in the wrong way. Emotional intelligence for those who do not know is the ability to identify emotions in yourself and others.
These emotions are something we can use to better ourselves and guide our behavior with someone. For this, you will need to truly understand how emotions work and where they all come from. By going along with the following 12 rules you will be well on your way to emotional intelligence. While it does take time it is achievable if you put in the right amount of effort. Having emotions work with you rather than against you is a truly wonderful experience.
1. Thou shalt not stop learning
Learning is required constantly when it comes to becoming and staying emotionally intelligent. You have to learn how to handle mistakes and how to keep moving forward when things seem impossible no matter what the situation is.
2. Thou shalt ponder thy feelings
You have to be able to ask yourself the right questions. Be aware of what you are feeling by allowing your mind to be truthful even to your inner self.
3. Thou shalt learn to pause
Take a moment when you need one. Don’t push yourself past the breaking point for any reason, your well-being is important. Being emotionally intelligent has a lot to do with your ability to know when you have had enough.
4. Thou shalt really listen
You have to actually listen to what the people around you are telling you. This means taking negative feedback and making something productive out of it and even being there for those you normally wouldn’t because it is the right thing to do.
5. Thou shalt praise others
Always pay attention to the good that other people do. In doing this you are inspiring some of them to be the best versions of themselves they can be.
6. Thou shalt forgive
Forgiving is not for the other person but for ourselves. Holding onto anger or resentment is not healthy and will only hurt you in the long run.
7. Thou shalt apologize
Apologizing is important even if it hurts your ego.
8. Thou shalt take responsibility
If you make a mistake never let someone else take the fall for it. Be responsible and make sure you are the one paying for your shortcomings or wrongdoings.
9. Thou shalt not judge others
Judging people is not getting you anywhere. Remember we all have bad days and we all make mistakes.
10. Thou shalt control thy thoughts
No matter what situation you are in you should always maintain control of yours emotions and thoughts. Don’t let anyone get the best of you.
11. Thou shalt practice empathy
Empathy is one of the most important emotions we have as humans and all too often people forget to use it.
12. Thou shalt be strong
Be strong even when you are at your weakest. Know that you are going to make it through no matter what this universe throws your way.
Mastering emotional intelligence is not possible, there will always be room for improvement. Work hard at it and make sure ou follow these ‘commandments.’ You will be where you need to be in this life soon enough. For more information on emotional intelligence check out the video below.