Have you ever wondered why you were attracted to the people you were attracted to or perhaps why you just aren’t attracted to some people in general? We all have our own preferences but where do those preferences come from?
According to a team of scientists led by Dr. Helen Fisher at Rutgers, romance can be broken down into three specific categories. These categories being lust, attraction, and attachment. These things happen to us with specific people because of our brains.
Our minds decide whether or not someone is friend material or relationship material. It decides whether or not we want to pursue something with someone. Have you ever wondered why you didn’t have feelings for that perfectly nice looking friend of yours? Well, it isn’t your fault, it’s your brain. Our preferences are hardwired into us.
It seems there are quite a few things that go into whether or not we find someone to be attractive. Some people believe we actually choose our partners based on of the composite image of our caretakers from childhood. However, whether you want to admit it or not, beauty does factor in a lot. When someone is beautiful it seems to scream “I have good genes and am healthy!” Your subconscious is going to pick up on that whether you do or not.
Research in the Journal of Neuropsychologia showed that pleasure centers in the brain are stimulated when people are shown images of beautiful women. While we don’t want to be shallow, we cannot always help it. Sure, personality matters, but so does appearance. In women, men tend to look at facial symmetry, youthfulness, waist-to-hip ratio, and odor before anything else.
Researchers from all over have their own perspectives on this sort of thing and I believe to some extent they all have things correctly. Scent, appearance, personality, and so much go into why we pick the partners we do. When we are attracted to someone it is our subconscious mind acting on its feelings and desires.
Our DNA is essentially calling the shots when it comes to who we pick as partners and who we don’t. You can learn more about this by checking out the video below. What do you think about all of this? Why do you think that you are attracted to some people and not others?