Sure, the time period in which we live is one oh-so-inclined to post things online, be it pictures or status updates. Social media is something we see as a town in and of itself. We can announce things that are going on and let people know where we are in our lives.
That being said, social media has become quite the place for competition. Everyone wants it to seem like they have a perfect life, relationship, and are successful in all that they do. It seems with some exceptions that people who post about their relationships more on social media are not as happy with one another than those who post less often. Sure, it is normal to want to let the public know that you appreciate your partner but the correlation between how often we post and how satisfied we are is without a doubt real.
Below you will find a list of reasons for this. While people who are content may post about their relationship from time to time they will not be the couple to post every single day. How often do you post about your relationship and are you as happy as you want people to think you are?
Happy couples don’t need to make people think they have a happy relationship.
If someone is not happy in their relationship they will seek emotional fulfillment elsewhere. They will try to make other people see their relationship as they want it to be. This will make them happier because they feel as if others think they are happy they will be happy. Psychologists call this projection.
Happy couples are not together to prove something.
Happy couples are together because they want to be together. They do not look to others for validation, they already know their relationship is valid. They rely on their partner to fill any emotional void rather than social media. When they obtain validation from each other there is no need to take to social media and post constantly about one another to get your point across.
Happy couples do not post about their relationship issues.
Their relationship problems are their own, posting about them would not solve them. Letting other people. Being less open about your relationship with others will actually help to make your relationship stronger. Sure you need to let people know if you are in danger in your relationship but if you are simply arguing over something dumb taking to social media to complain is the last thing you should do.
Happy couples are more present with one another.
Happy couples don’t spend time on their phone constantly when they are together. They savor their time together and forget to snap pictures or upload statuses. These couples are so present with each other that they enjoy the moment rather than distract themselves as a means to preserve it.
People who are not dependent on social media are often happier than others. It makes sense that people who spend their lives actually enjoying themselves rather than scrolling through Facebook would be happier. Uncontrollable social media use has even been associated with a lack of mental health. Social media obsession can actually ruin a relationship, for more on that check out the video below.