Depression is a very real mental disorder, affecting more than 16.1 million American adults in a single year. That’s 6.7% of all American adults – a staggering number! Even more shocking is that the fact that a good portion of those who experience the signs and symptoms on a regular basis have not actually been diagnosed, fighting through their struggles on their own.
There are, however, a large number of Americans who may be coming down hard on themselves daily for a very different reason. Rather than battling just their inner voices and a chemical imbalance, they are beat up, tore down and abused by the people that they trust the most in their lives – family, friends, co-workers and neighbors among others.
Think about the last time that you were feeling down on yourself or defeated. What were you doing just before that moment? Earlier that day? Was there something that was said to you that may have triggered these feelings?
When we invite a**holes into our lives we welcome their negativity, allowing their opinions to take hold of our minds and our hearts. William Gibson said it best when he said: “Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure that you are not, in fact, just surrounded by a**holes.”
Next time that you are questioning whether or not you are suffering from depression, step back and check for these 5 times that you are surrounded by a**holes:
1. They are very loud and obnoxious.
When you are spending time with an a**hole you can usually notice the difference in your conversations. Rather than asking questions or showing interest in your opinions, they go to extreme lengths to dominate the conversation – talking over you, ‘one-upping’ you or responding negatively to every suggestion that you make. This isn’t a reflection on you, it’s an example of their lack of people skills.
2. They are proud to show off their stupidity.
Not only are they stupid and ignorant, but they are so content with it that they don’t even try to hide it. They go through life trying to share their ‘knowledge’ fully aware that they don’t actually know anything that they are claiming to know. Regardless of how many times they are caught and called on it, it isn’t enough to stop them.
3. They don’t follow through on their commitments.
An a**hole only cares to spend their time on things that will ultimately benefit them in the long run. Anything else that they commit to is likely only lip service, said to benefit them in the moment. They will often stand you up or fail to follow through with plans that you have set together.
4. They are incredibly selfish.
While they may try to word their opinions as if they are attempting to help you, the truth is that really don’t care about anyone except themselves. They go through life tearing others down as they believe that doing so will, in turn, lift them up. They enjoy the feeling of superiority that they experience when they are stepping on others.
5. They constantly take without ever giving back.
This isn’t necessarily referring to money or material things, it could also refer to your time, energy and emotions. If you find that someone is constantly calling on your every time that they are facing a problem but are nowhere to be found when you need them most, it may be time to reconsider your relationship.