Exploding into a fit of rage is no way to win an argument. Nothing is going to be resolved if we do not maintain our cool and focus on getting something done.
All too often disagreements turn into full on fights and ruin friendships. Sure, it is okay to disagree but when things escalate further you need to ask yourself, is it worth it? If we all knew how to remain calm solutions would be found rather than more problems.
We are in charge of ourselves, how we react to something is on us. It is better to know when to stay calm and when to lash out rather than to simply always lash out. The following tips will help you to remain calm no matter what the situation is.
1. Remain in the present
Notice when someone is trying to provoke you. Focus on the here and now and remember to stay present. This will help to keep you calmer.
When things get to where you think you may explode breathe. Breathing is something many people across the globe use to calm themselves and it works quite well.
3. Change the conversation from the inside
Stop thinking of things from a standpoint where you are constantly being attacked. Think of things more as suggestions and you will become enraged much less frequently.
4. Pay attention to emotions
Use the person’s emotions as an indicator of where they are in this. Some people take things far too seriously and it is important to notice when this is happening. Emotions will help you to better understand the conflict in general.
5. Agree to disagree
Not all conflicts can be resolved and that is okay. Disagreeing is normal and simply removing yourself from the situation altogether is the answer sometimes.
Listening to where the other person is coming from will help resolve things much more quickly than merely yelling your side to one another. Really try to understand the point they are making.
These things will really help much more than you might think they would. If you happen to lose your temper please remember that apologizing is necessary. Do you use any of the methods listed above to keep yourself calm? If so which ones?