In the last decade or so, we are seeing more and more urban women opting to remain single. This is contrary to the earlier trend of women viewing marriage as a ‘must have’.
For many, it is a straightforward decision – to marry or not, but there are some who find themselves conflicted.
Feeling the pressure to settle down? Don’t despair if the perfect someone has yet to grace your lonely, single doorstep.
Being single is actually pretty sweet, so next time you find yourself wallowing in shallow self-pity, think about the following perks of flying solo.
Dealing With Someone Else’s Emotions Is Hard
As if struggling with your own sanity wasn’t tough enough, you have to constantly keep tabs on someone else’s mental health when you’re in a couple. Why make life more work than it already is?
Doing Things At Your Own Pace
You don’t have to constantly wait for someone or attend to your lover’s cries of “hurry up—we’re already two hours late for that dinner!”
No Forced Love
Not for your partner, of course, but for his dog or cats or kids. Forget pretending to adore Fluffy when you hate that his copious, white hair gets all over your black outfits and never comes off, regardless of how many times you use the lint roller.
No One Keeping Tabs On Your Actions
“What did you do yesterday, honey? Oh yeah? With who? That doesn’t sound very safe…” Please, who needs this all the time?
Falling into a routine as a couple is easy. When you’re by yourself, you can hang out with a different person every single night! (Not necessarily in a sexual way—but maybe in a sexual way. Because you can.)
Sure, you can learn and grow in a relationship, but doing so by yourself has a lot more longevity in terms of independent happiness.
Without the warmth of constant companionship, your job can become your best friend. This can lead to things like promotions, higher pay, an in with your boss, and lots of other things that people in couples are too busy cooing into each other’s ears to care about.
With social media, people with internet access know way more about our lives than we would like them to. That includes our significant others, who are more likely to pry into our time spent without them than anyone else is (except for your elderly mom, who just friended you on Facebook).
Choosing All of Your Own Activities
You don’t have to worry about feeling obligated to go to brunch with her cousin or on that dreaded ski trip with his family when you’ve never worn a pair skis in your life if you don’t have a significant other pleading with you to do so.