People who go through their childhoods being treated incorrectly by those who are supposed to take care of them end up with a lot of nasty side effects. The psychological scarring of children can and will affect them well into adulthood.
Narcissistic parents can either be too much or not enough. They use the manipulation tactics that they use on other people on their own offspring and it can cause serious issues throughout the child’s life. The child of a narcissist exists to serve the parent. When it comes to this kind of thing it takes the child years to realize there is an issue that they are not causing and in some cases, the child never comes to that realization.
If you experienced childhood trauma or neglect including being psychologically abused by narcissistic parents then you are most likely doing the following things without even realizing it. Without proper intervention and support, the cycle will not be broken. If you find that you are doing any of the things listed below please reach out for help and become the person you needed when you were young.
7 Things People Who Grew Up Dealing With Narcissistic Parents Do To Destroy Themselves Without Realizing It:
1. You struggle with relationships.
Relationships are not something you can handle. You fear rejection and abandonment so extremely that you end up walking on eggshells. This actually sabotages the relationship in some cases.
If you come from a narcissistic home, chances are you may end up in a relationship with a narcissist. You are drawn to what you know and sadly that is pain. You end up with the very person you were hoping to avoid.
Your self-esteem is damaged, nothing you do is ever good enough. You are far too hard on yourself and feel like you are always lacking. You are always seeking to please and never capable in your mind of doing so.
4. You have developed chronic self-blame.
You begin to blame yourself for everything as your parents have done. Even when it is something you cannot change you believe it is your fault. Chaos is your normal and you know how to take responsibility for things that no one can control.
5. You lack a sense of self.
Because you have been nothing more than a servant to your parents you don’t know how to exist. You are unsure of who you are or what you want in life. You feel lost on a deep level.
6. You are an extreme people pleaser.
You seek to please those around you in the ways you did your parents. You need someone to make you feel like you are doing something right. You seek approval in all you meet.
7. You experience some kind of mental illness.
People who have narcissistic parents often suffer from anxiety or depression. Based off of the other numbers I am sure you can tell why. Expressing your own needs is very hard.
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