Sure, everyone wants to be able to get over the things they went through as a child. Whether you suffered extreme trauma or some mild issues, it can be hard to actually come out on the other side.
Healing can take a long time. but there are things we can work on that will speed up the process. Adverse childhood experiences happen to the best of us. Sadly into adulthood, we are holding ourselves back and that is nothing to be ashamed of. We dwell on the emotions that come with our trauma or neglect and it does us no good. Below you will find a list of things that may be holding you back from healing.
7 Things Keeping You From Getting Over Your Childhood Experiences:
1. Doubting Yourself
Because you have grown up with a lack of validation you often doubt yourself. This is something you need to work through. You need to learn how to believe in yourself in order to further your healing process.
2. Feeling Shame
As a child growing up in a bad environment, you were most likely shamed a lot. You will still feel this even now. This can be an enormous barrier when it comes to healing and moving on.
3. Feeling Guilt
As a child who was told everything was his or her fault you probably came to believe it. You blame yourself for how things ended up and you shouldn’t. None of what you have gone through was your fault.
4. Still Hoping For The Best
Things are not going to fix themselves. You don’t have to pretend everything is fine and turn yourself into a robot. There is no magic wand for things like this, you have to work through them.
5. Maintaining an Unrealistic View on Healing
Thinking that things will get better through doing things that will not help at all is not getting you anywhere. Be realistic on your goals and where you want to be in your healing process. As mentioned above it takes time. If your milestones are too close together you are only going to be letting yourself down.
6. Being Swayed Easily
Allowing yourself to get excited about the responses you get from the people who treat you badly is only signing you up to become stuck deeper in their web. You have to overcome this person in all ways possible. Just because they are being nice today doesn’t mean they won’t revert back tomorrow. Change is never easy. Intermittent Reinforcement is not something you should be dealing with.
7. Holding Things In
Not talking about your problems is one of the most terrible things for the healing process. Bottling your ordeal inside will only make things worse on you. You need to talk to someone, anyone who you can trust.
Healing takes a lot from within but it also gives a lot as well. Don’t let yourself suffer anymore. Work towards moving on with your life.