If you have ever been in an abusive relationship, then you know how strange and unsettling it can be. While we all know the obvious signs of an abusive relationship, there are also small things we need to be prepared to pick up on.
Below you will find a list of the most overlooked signs of abuse. If you see someone doing these things to someone or if your partner is doing these things to you, get help. No one deserves to live their life being abused and belittled.
1. Abusing you financially
Yes, this is a real issue. For the most part, this is either when someone relies on the other person financially and puts all the burden on them, or when someone’s partner pretty much forces them into quitting their job and doing what they want them to do. This is something that can be absolutely frustrating.
2. Being stonewalled
If your partner refuses to talk about important issues and ignores you when you bring them up, then he or she is stonewalling you. This is something I cannot deal with no matter who it is. Sadly this is something that happens a lot.
If your partner continues to bring you down, even after you have asked them to stop, then it may be time to part ways. Your partner is supposed to build you up, not break you down. As long as you are doing your best, he or she should not be making remarks.
4. Having to ask for permission
While in some cases this can be considered normal behavior, when you find yourself constantly asking for permission, then you have a problem. You don’t want to be with someone who tries to control everything about your life.
5. Ignoring your opinion on everything
When your partner constantly ignores your wishes and needs, it can leave you feeling unloved and uncared for. This can be anything from a simple opinion, to something more complicated like a major life decision. However, it can also be something as simple as picking a song you enjoy for a drive down the road.
6. Being emotionally manipulated
Abusers are great at manipulating people. They may try to guilt and shame you into doing exactly what they wish, and this is a major red flag. If you see manipulative behaviors in your partner, then it is probably time to part ways.
Don’t be with someone who is overly jealous and controlling. You deserve to be able to live your life how you want to. Don’t let anyone get in your way.