Today you hear a lot of talk about narcissistic people. As a whole society, we have picked up on many narcissistic habits. However, there are people out there who actually have narcissistic personality disorder.
Narcissism is typically classified by people who take no regard for the feelings of other people. They have an issue with empathy, resulting in a self-absorbed perception. They tend to do things subconsciously that minimize the feelings, needs, and perception of their significant other. While some narcissists might be unaware that they are doing this, they use certain tactics to control you.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a mental disorder in which people have an inflated self-importance, and a deep admiration and lack of empathy for others. They mask their fragile self-esteem with a mask of ultra confidence that makes them vulnerable to criticism of other people. This personality disorder can cause major issues in work life, school, relationship, or even financial affairs. While there are some people who might be oblivious to their subconscious methods of controlling the ones around them, some are completely aware of what they’re doing; and you have to be aware of their devious tricks to protect yourself.
They Gaslight You
Narcissists use a method known as gas lighting to control you. It is used to convince you that your individual perception of abuse is inaccurate. They alter your perception of basically everything, making you think up is down and down is up. The gas lighting technique makes you feel like you’re going crazy, and doubt yourself when it comes to identifying a toxic relationship.
You’re Everything When You Stand up For Yourself
When you are finally able to gain the strength to stand up for yourself you suddenly become their everything. They are frightened when they realize that you might actually leave them. A soon as you start to doubt their feelings for you, you are suddenly the stars, the moon, and the sun to them. They are nothing without you, up until the point where you get used to taking their abuse again.
Engage in Smear Tactics
Smear tactics are tactics to turn your own perception of yourself. They begin to make you think you are the problem, depicting you as the abuser. They hope you’ll be sucked back into the relationship by reconciling rumors and repairing friendships. They turn it around on you to make you believe you are the unstable one.
They Threaten Sex
One of the last methods a narcissist has to use against you is depriving you of sex. They are some of the most charismatic, romantic, and charming people out there. They use their charisma to pull you into the bedroom, making you forget about the real issues in the relationship. They consider the love making session as a ‘make-up’, causing you to believe all of your issues have been worked through. They use this to make you forget. It’s a mere method of distraction and it works most of the time.
The Utilize Jealousy
The ultimate power a narcissist has above you is your love for them. They use it against you by making you jealous. They make you think you are nothing to move on from, often finding someone to replace you. They make you feel as if you’re the one that needs them, as opposed to them needing you.
In a healthy relationship, jealousy is an issue to be solved, reminding each other of the true importance of the other individual – not to make you believe you are expendable and easily replaced.
They Use Your Friends
A narcissist will use your own personal relationships against you. They get close to your friends, often making them think you are the problem in the relationship. They make your friends think you are ridiculous for standing up for yourself, isolating you from the people you seek true advice from. They make it to where you utterly need them in your life to feel loved.