The suffering and abuse that someone who has been in a narcissistic relationship has gone through is very real. Just because someone is not being attacked physically does not mean they are not being abused.
Sometimes you cannot see the scars abuse leaves and there is nothing wrong with getting yourself out of an abusive situation be it emotional or otherwise. Below you will find a list of things I know many narcissistic abuse survivors want their abusers to know and understand. While most of these things will never actually be said, bringing them to life in this way is empowering to say the least.
6 Things Survivors of Narcissistic Abuse Want Their Abusers to Know:
1. I do not belong to you.
As someone who has been through narcissistic abuse, I know now that I do not belong to anyone but myself. I am not property. I am my own person and no one can take away the things that make me who I am on the inside.
2. I have learned my lesson, and you were a mistake.
I have learned my lesson, you were not meant for me and you were nothing but a con artist. My heart was never at home with you, you were just wasting my time. I have learned so much from overcoming my ‘attachment’ for you.
3. I am better for having overcome your abuse.
I am a better person now than I was before. I have managed to overcome so much and in that find myself on a whole new level. Nothing will hold me back any longer.
I feel sorry for you because you will never know what it feels like to truly love someone and you don’t deserve to know that feeling anyway. You will always go through life living in that cycle and I was able to break the cycle. I have accomplished everything you never could.
5. You did not break me.
Let’s get this one straight: you never broke me. You pushed me to my breaking point and somehow I was able to push back and overcome the abuse you put me through. You were never there in the ways I needed you to be and I managed to get through the bad points all the same. I am a strong woman.
You have never deserved to have me in your life. You are not good enough for me. I deserve so much more than you could ever offer.
Once we accept these things and give power to them in their most authentic forms we can learn to understand how much stronger we truly are. Our abusers are the ones missing out. We have managed to do so much and overcome far more than they ever will.