We have all experienced it at some point in our lives; think back to your childhood, did you ever throw a tantrum simply because you did not get exactly what you wanted when you wanted it? As you grew older, did you learn how to be patient and show consideration for others, or did the meltdowns continue in a more sophisticated manner?
Entitlement is by definition “the feeling or belief that you deserve to be given something (such as special privileges).” A sense of entitlement is often linked with narcissism and borderline personality disorder. According to Psychology Today, over 30% of young people within America struggle with such egocentrism.
Sandy Hotchkiss, author of “Why Is It Always About You?” explains that a sense of entitlement, in fact, has zero to do with genuine self-worth. Alternatively, an individual with entitlement complex is comparable to a small child who never learned that he or she is not the center of the universe. They throw tantrums when outsiders do not meet their constant demands. This behavior can have detrimental impacts on your work-life, beliefs and even relationships.
So how do you know if you have a sense of entitlement? Here are 15 signs:
1 ) You penalize loved ones when they do not do what you desire through toxic actions; gossip, giving them the silent treatment, verbal or physical abuse.
2 ) You crave to be worshiped and adored.
3 ) You tend to enjoy one-sided friendships where you expect others to continuously give in to your needs.
4 ) You often feel sorry for yourself and openly share you melodramatics when plans do not work out exactly as you expected.
5 ) You generally feel as though you are more important than those around you and expect them to respect your superiority.
6 ) You impose unrealistic demands onto your loved ones without care of how your requests will affect them.
7 ) You tend to view others as mere competition.
8 ) It is second nature to assert your dominance over others and enjoy doing so.
9 ) You rarely find the need to negotiate or compromise with others.
10 ) You illustrate countless double-standards in your actions but hold everyone else to unrealistic expectations.
11 ) Friends often seem offended by what you have to say and it does not phase you.
12 ) You believe that you are a priority and should always come first, even at the expense of those around you.
13 ) You have been called egotistical, manipulative or ruthless on a regular basis.
14 ) You only look out for your own needs and rarely offer to help those around you.
15 ) You believe that you deserve all of the happiness and success that life has to offer, without having to work for it.
People with an entitlement complex can be categorized into two very different belief systems: those who are ashamed of their inclinations and are motivated to change and those who are proud of their behavior and see no need to change.
The signs of an entitlement complex don’t have to be as ostentatious as owning a luxury sports car or dressing like a stylish movie star. They can be as slight as quarrels over someone missing a phone call or taking advantage of those closest to you. However, when an entitlement complex manifests, identifying the signs is not always apparent. No matter what the signs are, the harm to relationships will remain the same.
The truth is that behaving entitled and having issues with entitlement has grave ramifications.