Sometimes we really suck and that is something most of us don’t really come to terms with. As humans, we can be pretty crappy from time to time and realizing that is the first step to making a change.
Regardless of the reason why you are a ‘shitty wife,’ it is something you need to realize so that you can make the changes you need to make. Usually, it takes two to really ruin a relationship but sometimes one person isn’t putting forth the effort that needs to be put forth. For some reason, we tend to ignore our own faults and focus on the faults of our significant other and that isn’t fair.
Below I am going to go over some of the signs that you might be the problem in your relationship, whether you want to believe it or not. These are all things that can be corrected so don’t obsess. Being aware of the problems you have going on within or the areas in which you need to work on can really make a huge difference in the quality of your relationship.
15 Signs That You Are A Horrible Wife:
If you are lying to your partner you are inviting negativity into your home. We shouldn’t be lying and our partner shouldn’t be lying to us. There needs to be a sense of honesty within your relationship.
2. You put other people before your partner.
You should be putting your partner above your friends in most aspects. Sure, everyone should have a place in your life but your partner shouldn’t be feeling left out because you are always going out with your friends. You should be finding a good sense of balance.
3. You are too demanding.
Don’t be too demanding within your relationship. Sure, asking your partner to do things and reminding them is fine but don’t be a brat. This one goes both ways. Everyone needs to be able to communicate properly within the relationship.
Some people like clingy and others don’t. That being said, there are limits to everything. If your partner wants some time to themselves, don’t get mad. Everyone needs their space from time to time.
If you are trying to control your partner you are in for a crappy relationship. Your partner is not an extension of you. You are not always going to be exactly on the same page and that is fine. Being too controlling will cause a lot of problems.
6. You don’t make an effort to spend time with your partner.
If you aren’t making an effort to spend time with your partner then someone is going to begin feeling left out within the relationship. Your partner makes time for you and you should make time for your partner. If no one is making time for one another why are you together in the first place?
If you refuse to budge in every single situation your partner is going to begin feeling like they have no say in anything. You need to compromise sometimes. It is very important.
8. You have no patience with your partner.
Being patient is something everyone should work on. If you are not patient your partner is going to drive you up the wall from time to time. Everyone needs to be able to take a step back and breathe when need be.
9. You are unreasonably selfish.
If you are putting yourself before anyone else and only thinking of your wants then your partner is going to get fed up quick. You can’t act like a spoiled brat and expect someone to stick around. Life just doesn’t work that way.
10. You are always bringing down your partner’s mood.
If you are always being a negative Nancy and making your partner upset, then chances are your partner thinks negatively of you. There is only so much that your partner will put up with before moving forward without you.
11. You tend to take out your anger on your partner.
Taking your anger out on your partner is never a good idea. If they haven’t done anything wrong, you shouldn’t be attacking them. Anger is something that needs to be properly dealt with.
12. You flirt with people who aren’t your partner.
If you are feeling okay with flirting with people who aren’t your partner you need to reevaluate your relationship. If you aren’t happy in your relationship ending it is a much better option than hurting their feelings by cheating or ‘just flirting.’ If you wouldn’t want them doing it you shouldn’t be doing it either.
13. You create tension within your partner’s close relationships.
If you are causing your partner to feel isolated then there is a big problem within your relationship. Whether you realize you are doing this or not chances are your partner has mentioned it before. Don’t be the person that makes your partner feel like his family is tearing away from him.
14. You don’t take your partner’s needs into consideration.
Your partner’s needs matter. When you got deep into this relationship you knew that your needs were not all that mattered anymore. You have to respect yourself and your partner.
If you jump into tearing your partner down when you are arguing you need to make a lot of changes. You should know when to walk away and take the time to think about what you are going to say. Your partner’s emotions are not to be played with.
Now, when it comes to overcoming these things and becoming a good partner all you have to do is change them. Be more mindful within your relationship and be a little more considerate. You are not the only person in this relationship and you need to remember that.