Many Myers Brigg studies ask the question, why are there not more of them when we need them? The shoes are big to fill for the INFJ. Sometimes it can be the most beautiful delicate flower in a dryer than a dry desert. Other times, it is the most fierce voice in the room, uncontrollably honest, uncontrollably bent on its intuition to tell people where they fall short. As the peacemaker-kings of the world, the INFJ can often be misunderstood. Strange because there is a short supply of them. The following is a list of struggles, that many INFJs face – constantly.
INFJs have a horrible time revealing their true feelings romantically.
They are overly concerned with perfectionism. They have a calm exterior, but underneath are riddled with questions and hope. How many of them move on into relationships is a mystery. But they will be the best person to date that you’ll ever find. Because they’ll make you cookies. Guide you well into your future. And really care about treating you and themselves right.
The worst thing you can do to an INFJ is set the bar too high. “What do you mean that the only way to get an ‘A’ is a 98%?”
It can be tedious to watch people struggle to make decisions, especially on basic things like ordering food, what to wear, etc. This is why an INFJ will get involved to help you make a decision, not just out of kindness, but probably because they can’t stand the trivial indecision.
INFJs are extremely private.
They are constantly building a world inside them and that can take awhile to unleash their secret hidden world till the timing is right, if ever right. Think of the movie Amelie.
INFJs have a tendency to hyper-organize certain things and code them.
Such as wearing earrings that match shoes, bookshelves ordered by specific genres, or aligning objects for no reason. And yet—they have a general okayness with a few piles. Then there’s the general madness when there is too much out of control. And then they have general concern if around people who hyper clean.
With their giant imagination and visionary minds, they can have a tough time dealing with daily, practical matters.
Not being able to answer the question “What’s the point?” can lead to neglecting cleaning, financial responsibilities, etc.
They’re super hawks of insight.
INFJs struggle all the time on whether to tell people that they’re about to go on a path of destruction and terror, or if they should just let people find that out themselves. They have excellent clarity for the future, but they don’t want to lose friends with their candor and weirdness.
Splurges of hyperactive thought. An overindulgence of creativity. Alcohol and caffeine are more their nightmare than you could arguably understand. Caffeine causes too much creativity, alcohol causes too much honesty.
INFJs can’t negotiate well if they think it will harm the friendship.
Don’t hurt the friendship! Anything but that!
The love of harmony runs deep in this personality.
Too extreme of situations can cause an INFJ to run and hide in a closet till things are calmer. Other times, they will be the one leading everyone out of the chaos.
They can become extremely obsessive.
An INFJ in love mode is the most obsessed creature on the planet. They may take awhile to warm up to people because they know of the insanity that can brew within. Seventy dormant volcanoes are said to live inside each INFJ.
Most INFJS struggled with super emotional outbursts as a child.
Being an INFJ evens out as you get older because you have the joy of language to express yourself. Can you imagine being a kid who is constantly evaluating death, disease, murder, creatures in the closet, missing parents, and did I mention death? INFJ kids are aware of death all too young. They may cry a lot and have a hard time expressing it to adults.
Under stress, INFJs can be super confused about priorities.
Like, “Hey, you have a final tomorrow. Why are you baking chocolate pumpkin spiced muffins that take three hours to make? And you’re using real pumpkin?”
Their extreme insight for the future can cause a sudden feeling of, “Oh, God! The world is going to end!”
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