The dating world can be a mess of confusion, keeping us guessing from day to day. You put yourself out there, meeting new people and connecting with those that you feel may fit into your life.
Taking a chance, you give it a try. Sometimes these relationships will fall flat on their face, leaving you to pick yourself up, brush yourself off and keep going. Other times, you will find yourself smiling and enjoying your time together. You genuinely feel as though this is someone you could spend your life with, or could you?
The line between a good relationship and finding ‘the one’ may be one of the most difficult things to determine. On one hand, you want badly to believe that you have found that perfect match, the person you can build a life with, however, on the other hand, you may find yourself feeling cautious about taking that all too important step, after all, what if this isn’t the one? While there is no foolproof solution, there are a number of signs that you can watch for, ensuring you that you’re heading down the right path.
Here are 14 telltale signs that you’ve found ‘the one’:
#1 – Complete Comfort
When you’re with ‘the one’ there is no need to put on a show, or act like someone you’re not. You don’t need to hide your struggles or fake it when you’re upset. Instead, you can be 100% honest through the good times and the bad, and you know they will be there by your side judgment-free, ready to help you face whatever comes your way.
#2 – Unwavering Support System
There are going to be times that your goals and dreams line up incredibly well, and there are also going to be times in life that you honestly aren’t going to understand one another entirely – for example, a career or hobby specific goal. Either way, you can count on your partner to always be in your corner offering you unwavering support in your efforts, and you go out of your way to do the same in return. You don’t necessarily have to understand it, you just have to know that it’s important to them and that’s what matters!
#3 – It’s the Little Things
You know what one another likes, and you put that into practice where possible to bring a little joy and happiness in your partner’s day. These are the little things you do without being asked – making your partner’s morning coffee, choosing one another’s favorite foods for dinner or turning on your partner’s favorite television show. You are so in tune, that you don’t need to ask for that extra little love and affection, you both just give it freely for no other reason than to see your partner smile.
#4 – Fight Fair
Don’t be fooled, you are going to argue and disagree. Even the healthiest relationships will have to work their way through a fight from time to time. The difference between fighting with ‘the one’ and any other relationship is that you fight fair. You treat one another with respect, even if you don’t share the same opinion, and don’t resort to childish drama like name calling and temper tantrums. Instead, you handle the argument like adults, and come out stronger on the other side.
#5 – Unspoken Communication
When you are in a relationship with ‘the one’ you are able to connect on a deeper, more meaningful level. What does this mean for communication? Often when you’re out and about you will notice that you pick up on your partner’s facial expressions and body language. This means that you will often to know what your partner is thinking before they even have to say a word. You’re not actually reading one another’s minds, but you might as well be!
#6 – Willing to Sacrifice
A good sign that you’ve found ‘the one’ is when you are willing to make sacrifices to keep them happy. You know that you won’t always get what you want in life, but you are willing to give up a little if it will mean your partner getting what they desire most. At the same time, you see your partner is willing to do the same, making you a priority in their life.
#7 – Wanting to Keep Your Partner Involved
It’s not just that you happen to spend a lot of time together, your partner is involved in all your best moments both because they want to be included in your life, and because you want them to be there. You can’t imagine experiencing anything important in life without your partner by your side, which is a clear sign that this is more than just a passing relationship.
#8 – Face Life’s Challenges Together
When life gets hard, as it inevitably will, you don’t feel as though you are facing the challenges alone. Instead, you have your partner by your side fighting with you every day. Whether you are battling an illness, facing the loss of a job, or experiencing the loss of a loved one, you know that your partner will be there ready to face it as a team.
#9 – The #1 Stress Reliever
You’ve probably read all sorts of information about the best way to calm down and eliminate stress in your life. The truth is that there is no better stress reliever than time spent with that special someone. If you’ve found the one just their presence can calm you down and help you to manage the craziness that is life. They are your biggest supporter, your top cheerleader and the listening ear when you need it most.
#10 – Their Family is Your Family
You’ve crossed the line from being that acquaintance that they occasionally bring around for family functions to being completely 110% comfortable with your partner’s family. In fact, when you are around them you genuinely feel like you are one of them. You go out of your way to connect with and support them, at first because you know it’s important to your partner, and later because you truly care for them yourself!
#11 – No Faking It
You don’t have to worry about trying to be someone different or putting up a ‘front’ to convince your partner that you are something that you’re not. When you find ‘the one,’ you know that they love you for who you are, including your strengths, weaknesses, quirks and flaws. You are able to drop the mask, let go of the public persona and just be yourself without worry.
#12 – Distance Isn’t a Deal Breaker
There are going to be times in life that you may find yourself trying to manage your relationship from a distance. This could be due to school, work, business trips or anything else that life may throw your way. While distance may break a newer, less committed relationship it isn’t going to be a deal breaker when you’re with ‘the one.’ Instead, you will simply find the best ways to stay connected, maintaining a happy and healthy relationship until you can be physically together again.
#13 – The Excitement Continues
It is inevitable that a relationship, in time, will begin to become more routine. If this is ‘the one’ however, you will both put the effort in to keep the excitement alive. You acknowledge that relationships don’t ‘just happen,’ they require work, dedication and effort, and you are willing to do what’s needed. You still get butterflies in your stomach when your partner is around.
#14 – Become a Better Person
Not only do you bring one another support, comfort and encouragement, you actually help one another to grow and evolve into the best versions of yourself. You encourage one another to step outside of your comfort zones, chasing after your goals and dreams. Not only do you believe that you make one another better people, you feel like a better person when you are together.