Love is something most people do not understand. It can be the most terrifying thing in the world, and some don’t believe it exists at all.
For intelligent people, it is much harder to find love. Sure, you probably assume they would do just fine when it comes to finding the perfect partner, but most of the time that is not the case. Intelligent people need someone who can challenge them mentally, and that is not easy to come by. Finding someone who works well with this kind of person can be quite the task. If you are an intelligent individual, the following reasons are most likely why you cannot find love.
11 Reasons Why Intelligent People Struggle to Find Love:
1. They are usually quite intimidating.
People who are not on the same level as the intelligent person will find him or her to be intimidating. Most people do not like the feeling of being intimidated. This sort of scares them away.
2. They prefer being single.
Sometimes being single is the best option for the intelligent person. They assess their situations beforehand and make a decision. You might have to be pretty damn special if you want to get their attention.
3. They do not sugar coat things.
They tell you how it is. These people would not keep things from you and are always completely honest. Honesty is a dying virtue.
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4. They are misunderstood.
They are often portrayed as weird or creepy, but they are not. These people are misunderstood and can make wonderful friends and partners. Just because you don’t understand it does not mean assuming things is alright.
5. They do not often pick up on the signs.
You could be hitting on them in the most obvious way, and they probably would not notice. It is hard to convince them that you are interested. They are completely oblivious when it comes to love.
6. They are little harder to get to open up.
These people do not open up often. You have to earn their trust beforehand. That being said, their trust is hard to gain.
7. They prefer to let their mind call the shots.
They do not let their heart speak. They use their mind to figure things out and decisions. This is a bad thing when it comes to making decisions of the heart.
“Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ” by Daniel Goleman is an insightful read that can help intelligent people navigate the emotional aspects of relationships.
8. They tend to obsess.
The intelligent person obsesses over everything. If you are not patient, you cannot handle this kind of person. You have to be willing to work through it.
9. They are too authentic.
These people are too authentic for their own good. They know who they are and who they are not. Nothing can get in their way.
10. They refuse to settle.
They are not going to date just anyone. These people know what they want and what they do not want. They could settle, but why settle when things are only going to get better.
11. They are much busier than most.
They spend a lot of their time working and/or researching. These people know it is important to learn as much as you can and do so each and every day. However, just because they are busy does not mean they can’t make time for you.
“Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking” by Susan Cain explores the strengths and challenges of introverted and intelligent individuals in love and life.
If you are an intelligent person, don’t give up. You will find love when the time is right, and it will be someone who is perfectly matched to fit your needs. We all have someone somewhere who is trying to make their way to us.