Throughout our entire lives, we are told to search for another unique individual that will complete us. While it begins at first as curiosity, by the time we hit adulthood, it becomes clear that our time is ticking away and we are left will what seems to be little time to find the ‘one.’
While on this journey, we may hear little bits of advice from our friends that have already succeeded at finding their match, however, mostly, our friends and family keep it positive, in hopes we don’t lose our faith. Unfortunately, this leaves little room for the truth and because of this, most of us don’t have a realistic view of what love truly is.
1. We Accept the Love We Believe We Deserve
Many of us, well really, all of us will find ourselves in a damaging relationship at one point or another. And while we may search for the reason why, it’s actually quite simple: if we stay in a bond with someone that is obviously bad for us, perhaps this is because we settle for what we believe we deserve.
2. Many of Us Become Addicted to Toxic People and Mistake It For Love
Just because we believe we are in love, doesn’t mean we are. How many times do we settle for people who continue to hurt us or make us feel less than because we believe we are in love. Unfortunately, there are many cases in which we are actually more addicted or attached to the other person for the wrong reasons.
3. Love Isn’t Always Picture Perfect
Despite what the fairytales say, and despite what the movies will have us believe, there is no right way a relationship should be. Sometimes, it is romantic and perfect, and other times, it means going through a hard time and dealing with the worst aspects of the person we love. This doesn’t mean it isn’t love, though, actually it probably means the opposite.
4. You Can Love Someone Without Being In Love With Them
Have you ever found yourself with someone that you truly loved, but couldn’t quite connect to? Sadly, loving someone doesn’t always equate to being in love with them.
5. If Your Partner Doesn’t Respect You, They Don’t Love You
Respect is everything in a relationship. We could lie to ourselves all day long, however, at the end of the day, it becomes obvious when someone respects you as a person and when someone doesn’t.
6. Sometimes, People Will Purposely Sabotage Your Happiness: Don’t Let Them
When you sense someone attempting to sabotage your relationship, lay down the line. You may feel as though you are exaggerating the situation, but at the end of the day, you know your intuition.
7. Sometimes, We Are the Toxic Partner
Having toxic behaviors doesn’t always mean we are a toxic person, but it is important to look at your relationship from both viewpoints. Understand when you are being toxic or hateful to your partner and work to fix it. Otherwise, you may lose someone you truly care for.
8. Sex Is Not Everything
During relationships, we will go through ups and downs regarding our sexual lives. Of course, in the beginning, sex will be plenty, and who is to say that ever has to end? However, keep in mind that sex doesn’t make or break your relationship, and sometimes, we have to learn to speak to our partner’s heart in order to make them comfortable for other aspects of the bond.
9. We Can Have More than One Soulmate in a Lifetime
Sometimes, things can fall apart, even when we think we have found the one. But don’t despair, many people report having found multiple ‘ones’ along their journey.
10. Badmouthing Your Ex Doesn’t Make You Look Good
Seriously, while we all need to vent sometimes, it is better to not constantly drag your ex down, especially with your new partner.