Any relationship can be risky business, especially when you struggle with feelings of uncertainty. While falling in love is not something within anyone’s control, maintaining a healthy relationship can be complex. One of the most important foundations of any relationship is trust and loyalty. Staying faithful to one person is an integral principle of any relationship.
Yet, there are many people in this world who struggle with this basic task. Some people cheat because it is strictly in their nature to do so, others purposely do it to gain a specific reaction. Although they can be caught, there are people whose actions go unnoticed in any relationship. They may be sweet and caring but deep down they are doing something else.
It is not always necessarily possible to identify the unfaithful but all cheaters, in fact, share a few commonalities.
Here are a few traits shared by all cheaters:
If you notice your significant other talking too much about themselves or what they have done in life then it can be a sign of cheating. Although this sounds harsh, it has a sound logic behind it. Once a person starts bragging about their goodness or only have opinions about themselves, they lose their ability to see something from someone else’s point of view. They believe that their version of something is correct while ignoring the others.
Loss Of Respect
A person’s treatment of others says a lot about them. If a person cannot treat others around them with respect, especially family, then something is wrong. It’s a sign of a cheater. Because since they cannot respect you as a person, then they may not respect the principles of a relationship either. It’s not certain that disrespect leads to cheating, but it sure makes it a possibility.
Sounds harmless, right? Wrong. If your significant other demands too much then they may have a different thought process. A process where they are constantly asking you for one unrealistic thing after another. And if you’re unable to keep up with it? It gives them an excuse to cheat. So watch out.
Cheaters are occasionally risk takers in other areas of their lives as well. It all boils down to that “rush” they feel when there is something important at stake. It’s often the lies and fear of getting caught that fuels their fire. They just can’t seem to resist the thrill of the chase and when the opportunity for reciprocation arrives, they can’t seem to resist that either. It’s a win-win with no regard for the people involved.
This is one of the most common traits. Even though jealousy is just a human trait, it’s mostly found in cheaters. Someone who cheats is bound to get jealous as they cannot imagine someone else doing the same to them as they’re doing to others. This is the evidence that they’re hypocrites. They know what they’re doing but would not tolerate someone else doing it. Thus, they keep an eye on similar behavior.
One way to understand someone is to notice the things they like talking about. Cheaters, by their very nature, are superficial and if they were not, they would never cheat in the first place. So if you find someone talking about material things, outer beauty and looks, more than about the qualities of a person, beware, they may be inclined to cheat. If outer beauty is what attracts them then they would always find someone better looking than you and would start chasing them. Are they worth it?
These people are smooth individuals. They tend to have the ability to talk their way out of anything. If they are ever caught doing the deed, they will find a way to soften the other person’s heart and stay. They play victims constantly and try to convince you that it was not their fault. This causes you to stick around and gives them a free pass to do it again.
Some people have it in them to flirt with everyone. Meeting a girl and instantly trying to hit on her is a very common characteristic that cheaters have. But with a relationship comes compromise. If your significant other cannot halt their flirtatious nature for you then is there more to say? They don’t respect that a relationship has certain values and become bound to cheat.
Distorted Self Image
People with a tendency to cheat usually have a distorted self-image. They live in a grand delusion which they create about themselves. They are usually not capable of seeing things from other people’s point of view and insist on imposing their own versions on others.
If you notice someone acting this way and if they talk about how incredible they are and what things they have achieved etc. chances are that they are too self-engrossed to notice your value. Step away from them silently.
If your partner has confessed to cheating on someone they dated before you, do not take it as a good sign. Their excuses such as “I don’t know” or ‘it was already over’ are simply excuses alone. These people have a damaged set of values. If they had the tendency to do it prior to you then it’s important to keep a check on them because they may do it again.